At 11:30 pm, my husband and I were watching TV. Earlier in the day we had celebrated Thanksgiving. We spent a portion of the day visiting my husbands Uncle. We knew that he was terminally ill and in fact had been living in a hospice since March of 2003. While there was no chance of his condition improving he had been "holding his own". Our visit with him was very nice. We brought our children 5 & 8, they hugged him and kissed him, during our visit we laughed and talked and truly enjoyed ourselves.
Later that evening as we watched TV a lamp on the coffee table beside us blinked off and on and off and on. I looked at my husband and he said "what do you think caused that?" We checked to make sure the lamp was plugged in correctly and that the bulb was tight. Nothing else in the room blinked so we felt certain that it had nothing to do with electrical failure. I said "I think it was someone trying to get our attention" after a bit of speculation as to who it could be we went to bed.
while later the phone rang and it was my Mother in law telling us the hospice
had called to say that a nurse had stopped in our Uncle's room to see if he
needed anything and realized that he had died. She had seen him alive around
11:15 or so and he must have passed away between that time and 11:45 when she
found him. My Uncle and I had spoken quite a bit about his terminal illness and
what he would find on the "other side" when he passed. He had been raised
Catholic but during his life had become more of an agnostic. I really feel that
the blinking light was his way of saying good bye and acknowledging that there
is something after death. If the light had blinked once I would not be so
certain that it wasn't just my imagination, but it blinked twice, it seemed very
slow but I am sure the light went off only a second or two each time it blinked.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I was with someone else who experienced the same thing and the timing of the event coincided with the passing of someone we were very close to.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Curious. I could not figure out who it could be. He had been so energetic and happy earlier in the day that his passing away that night truly surprised us.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
It helps me each time that I feel sadness about his death, I remember the light blinking incident and feel comforted.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes
I feel more certain of an afterlife instead of just simply ceasing to exist.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? Yes
My Uncle and I had joked that he would have to let me know what was on the other side since he was going first.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? After my mother in law called to tell us of his death I felt sad, yet very happy as I felt sure it was him telling me good bye until we meet again.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes
I felt it confirmed for me there is life after death.
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes
I have only told a few close friends and my parents. They agreed with my interpretation of the event. (my spelling sucks, I wish I could spell check this before clicking the send button)
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Your form asks questions in such a way that I have provided you more details than to anyone that I have verbally told about this.