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Barbara S's ADC

Experience description:  

experience #1: I was sleeping and had a short dream that I was holding him as I had in the mortuary.  I said to him "It feels so good to hold you even if it is in a dream" he responded "I think I've put on weight" 

experience #2: My 2 oldest children were coming home for the weekend so all 7 of us could be together for the first anniversary of Quentin's death.  My daughter came running in and said "mom you gotta see this you won't believe it"  We all went outside to see approximately 150-200 butterflies all over the yard - in the trees, bushes, grass, on the cars, flying around... just EVERYWHERE!  Quentin was there too to make it a full 8. 

experience #3:  My husband had left for work early and I was still laying in bed because I was recovering from surgery. I felt someone climb into the bed on his side, but I couldn't see anyone because of the pillow in the middle proping my arm up. Thinking it was my son getting up for work I said "hey baby" but sat up to look when there was no answer.  Then I heard someone under the bed.  I said "very funny, if you're going to sneak up on me you'll need to be a little less noisy" Then I felt someone poke me through the mattress and then under the pillows.  I bent to look under the bed and when I didn't see anyone I realized we are on two sets of box springs no one could poke through that.  I went into my son's room and he was sound asleep.  It was Quentin playing jokes on me again. 

He has done this before... I was dozing on the sofa when I hear him say "BOO" as he often did to scare me. I jumped awake and looked around for him.  Another time I swear I heard him say "hi mom" as he ran past my bedroom.   

Quentin was known for his mischievous grin and playing good natured jokes on people.

Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience:          Severe sadness and/or grief feelings

After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience:          Wonderful

Have you had multiple experiences?    Yes    several

Was this experience difficult to express in words? No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

          Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:      His voice.  He had a difficult time pronouncing "r" sounds.  His voice is distinctive.  I can still hear it in my mind.

"I think I've put on weight!"  a matter of fact statement

          Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?         he was looking right at me speaking as I held him.  His head was normal, as well.

          If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?         exactly the same... inflection and tone, etc.

          Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?      NO WAY

          Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? NOPE

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?          Yes

I was holding him on my lap.  I felt his weight on my lap and his girth in my arms.  I stroked his face and hair and his head where it had been pieced back together

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?  I was holding him and he was warm... not cold like at the mortuary

          Was anything communicated by the touch?  a hug, love

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?         nothing else was around.  I don't recall any kind of surrounding at all.

Did you see the deceased?        Yes

pale like at the mortuary except his head was closer to normal

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            solid

            How much of the deceased did you see?       his whole body  He was on my lap

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?            same

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            head was not cracked and glued together, eyes were not sunken in

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?   No

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        it was there and then it wasn't

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          Yes

matter-of-fact  typical of him

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  no

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?         Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   None of these experience were expected. 

#1 was a dream, but It was so like him and if it wasn't real I would think he would say something more profound.  Plus, the fact that I knew it was a dream leads me to believe it was a visit.

#2 involved nature and was witnessed by my entire family.  unfortunately we didn't get pictures.  However, we've had several other experiences with butterflies and dragonflies that are bizarre.

#3 I was wide awake

          Was the experience dream like in any way?  No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:         happy, sad, wonder, grief, longing, surprise, love, a whole array of emotion all mixed together.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Yes

It reassured me that he is around us and watching.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    The best was holding Quentin in my arms again.  The worst is that I haven't had a similar thing like that since.  I have heard him and seen his face or felt his presence, but not felt his body.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?       No     

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   No          Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         Yes    confirmation

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?      No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?          happy, sad, wonder, grief, longing, surprise, love, a whole array of emotion all mixed together.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          Yes

Yes to # 2 only

 no to #1 and #3

Have you shared this experience with others?       

Yes    Some people say "I believe that stuff" or the like.  Some tell of similar things that happened to them.  Some just smile and walk away.  Some ask more about it.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   Yes

I read the book  "Hello From Heaven" and that's how I found the www.after-death.com site.  I posted messages there for a bit then the computer went belly up.  Also Rainbow Bridge with Ken Prather.

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?      I am very very interested in learning more about this.  I would like to try some past life regression to see if Quentin and I were in a previous life together.  I would also like to learn about any other techniques you may have to enhance my mind and spirit so I can contact him some more, but more importantly my dad.  I have only had one dream about him since he passed (2 days after Quentin).  So many times I want his advice.  If you ever need subjects for studies... please call me.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?     Uncertain

I do take several medications, but these were definitely not med-induced

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?    No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?  No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?           Yes

a lot of repetition