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Barnie's ADC

Experience description:  

In addition to my experience I will first provide some back-story to who I am as a person and whom the deceased was to me.


When I was 6 we got a new girl in class which eventually would grow to be the pillar of my youth. We were together everyday and we were inseparable until I eventually would move at the age of 16. The reason this girl became to be such a good friend was because she was the only one who would accept me, and actually was the only friend I really had till the moment I moved away from the conservative village I grew up in. I always used to be the odd one out and knew at a very young age I was gay. I also always have been really sensitive and emotional and I guess people just thought I was weird. The person this story is about is actually not the girl herself but her mother. I never lost contact with my friend but I did not speak to her very often.


Her mother, named Ratree was from Thailand and moved to the Netherlands when she was pregnant from her first daughter (my friend). Ratree was a woman with a very tough story, Lost her first child at birth (a boy) and had a very traumatic accident when she was younger. Moving to the Netherlands however wouldn't lighten things for her at all. She soon divorced the man she had her two daughters with and had to take care of herself while not even speaking the language (she never really learned either ha-ha). As you can imagine as soon as my friend and I got to know each other I would come to spend a lot of my days at their home. In the 10 years I learned many important lessons from Ratree, for example hospitality. They never had much money but no matter the time or day Ratree would always feed me or ask me if I was hungry. She also showed me you don't have to be related to be family. On multiple occasions she would call me her lost son and always proudly told people she was the mother of two daughters and a son. I was very blessed to be taken in by such warm people and grew to love them as my own family. I will also never forget how their house would always smell soooo delicious to the traditional Thai food she never stopped making.


About two years prior to my experience me and two friends started to go through what I would call a 'spiritual awakening' and were discovering what spirituality, sensitivity and empathy meant to us. Having gone through some pretty cool experiences my ADC would be the one that would really convince me there was something bigger going on around us. As I told you before Ratree had a drinking problem and a few years before her death started to need medical attention and check ups, however with great struggles never really able to stop her alcohol addiction. Not having talked to my friend for like 4 months I was unaware of the fact that Ratree had been taken to the hospital and was on life support for a failing liver. She passed away with her daughters by her side on the night of 14 September 2015. That same night I was on my room just about to go to bed. I think it was around midnight when I stepped into bed and laid down. The moment I was laying and my senses were no longer occupied with my TV or phone (or whatever was distracting me) I heard rumbling on my desk, like something was bumped over. This immediately caught my attention and I sat up in my bed I don't know why this had such an impact on me but it just felt 'unnatural'. As I was sitting there (and this may sound ridiculous) I caught the smell of delicious Thai food just like how their house would always smell. And right at that moment I thought 'Oh my God has Ratree passed away? Is She in my room right now?' Not really trying to jump to conclusions and not really sure what to do with this experience I started to 'mentally talk' to her. I said something like 'if you've passed away and came to say goodbye, please know that you taught me so much and showed me so much love and kindness. I will never forget you and I know you are without pain now, I love you' something in that course. Not really knowing if I was right or what to do next I told myself that if I was right I would read it on face book the next morning or hear it from my friend herself. And that's exactly what happened as I woke up the first thing I read when I opened face book is that my friend posted that her mother had died the night prior at around 10 pm. I never really had a extremely hard time with her death I guess it's because I kind of knew she was in a better place (I'm not a religious person however so I don't believe in heaven or anything).

after all this time I stumbled upon this website and thought I'd share my experience with this community and hope to spread some light for those who might be straying on a dark path or just to help the science behind ADC.

And of course in loving memory of Ratree a woman who would grow to be such an inspiration

I love you.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?     No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?          No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?      Uncertain

the desk when something fell over was her I guess.

Did you see the deceased?       No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?   Yes

           What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?          the smell of her delicious cooking and distinct smell always present in their home.

           Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?      yes.

           Was anything communicated by the smell?           warmth, security and familiarity I guess

           Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No I'm the only one who can cook Thai in my student house and it was 100% their distinct smell not even like a restaurant.

How long did the experience last?      about 2 minutes I'd say

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?          gradual because I was doubting myself

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?   Uncertain

it felt like she came to say goodbye.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  I don't think so

How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real

           Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:     See my story and I'm also a very skeptical person and I believe in facts not stories.

           Was the experience dream like in any way?           No

What did you feel (while awake) immediately prior to your experience?  Relaxed    

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Also very relaxed and a bit uncertain

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?         No

What was the best and worst part of your experience? everything was great except of course for the fact someone dear to me had passed

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No     

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?          No      Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         Yes    I don't know what it means but it means something ha-ha.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?        No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?           nothing really.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?        No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?           No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?           No

Did you become aware of future events?      No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?        No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?         No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?   No

Did you see a light?         No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?           No

Have you shared this experience with others?       

Yes    My mother told me she had a similar experience when her grandfather had died.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?           No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?      no.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?       No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?          Uncertain 

just maybe I'm not sure.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?             Yes