Basil S's ADC
I was drifting off to sleep, feeling nostalgic and sad regarding the death of my brother who passed away in 1994 of an illness. I was in that state just before slipping into sleep, when this experience "washed" over me like a wave. I felt this overwhelming powerful feeling of love that just filled me. I had never felt such a feeling. At the same time the room filled with a fragrance that I knew belonged to my father. My father's hygiene was always good, and he and his bedroom always felled fresh and clean. It was a unique smell that I associated with him. I have not experienced that smell since nor had I before my experience. I have no idea how long this experience lasted, but I gradually came to realize and know now, that my father exists somewhere, he loves me and is proud of how I've conducted my life. At least he was at that point in time. I've also concluded that somehow, my brother, must also exist somewhere.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? Yes
The internal feeling of overwhelming love.
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? Yes
What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell? A clean, fresh smell that uniquely identified my father.
Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar? Yes. It was my father's unique smell.
Was anything communicated by the smell? I think it was a way of my father to communicate that the overwhelming feeling of love that filled me was coming from him.
Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
How long did the experience last? No sure, minutes maybe.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? It was gradual as I slowly realized what had happened.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Yes I experienced a powerful feeling of being loved.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? My father, like me, did not communicate love easily, although I never doubted that he loved me as I loved him. I think he communicated to me the depth of his love for me. I hope I did the same to him. It was a feeling of communion with my father.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: The experience was real and time has not altered my conviction. It was too clear and vivid. My memory of it is more real than some physical experiences I have had in the past.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Nothing during the experience other than "soaking up" the feeling of love and realizing it was my father's presence.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
Experiencing the depth of love in a way not previously known.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The best part was the powerful and unmistakable nature of the experience. The worst part was that it ended.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I am convinced that I am a spiritual being in a physical body. I continue to pursue understanding of the mystery through meditation and study.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes My attitude about the depth and power of love.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes That personal attributes can be used to communicate from the world of spirit. I'm not sure if my visitation was really from an entity that was my father, or God using the information to communicate something to me. I'm not sure, but think it was my father in some form.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Happiness, wonder.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? Uncertain
Unsure of the duration of the experience.
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Uncertain
I've had paranormal experiences all my life.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? Yes
The room seemed to lighten a little. It was dark at the time.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Only a trusted aunt and my significant other. Their reaction was one of acceptance and understanding.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
I have had out of body experiences while drifting off to sleep. My presence has been verified by friends in remote locations.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. Questionnaire is well thought out. My experience seemed to come, while I was open and sad about my brother, emotionally vulnerable, and yet it was my father's presence that appeared. Maybe a question that specifically addresses such a situation.