Becky V's ADC
My Grandmother was the hospital for a short period of time and the doctors told us she didn't want any surgeries and that she was in pretty good health for her age and she should live for quite a while. My mother took a leave of absence from work and grandma came home on a Thursday night. I went and visited her with my two children, Jenny 4 and Joey 1. Joey would not stop crying when she held him. Grandma was on oxygen and kept telling us while patting her stomach that she was empty and that was good. I cried all the way home, not knowing why. The next morning I got the call while I was at the hairdresser that grandma had died. I got over there as soon as I could, but her body was already taken to the mortuary. So I was sitting with my mother and aunt as described above. My grandmother and I would sit together on the couch while we watched our soap operas and she had the habit of patting my knee. As I mentioned before my mother had just said she felt something and at that exact moment I felt my knee being patted and I looked down and saw nothing. But right then I felt this incredible rush, feeling, spirit, whatever you want to call it go through my body and up towards the ceiling. The feeling was one of incredible joy, happiness, peace, love, etc. don't have the words! I actually thought I had put my arms up to go with her, but didn't according to my aunt. She was free is what she was telling me, she hated her body at the end.
To this day it was like it happened yesterday. I can
still feel that feeling and no one can tell me that that wasn't my grandmother.
I really had a hard time with it at first. It actually scared me and no one
really believed me but my mother. When we went
to view her body I was obsessed with letting everyone know that she was not here
and gone, free! So for months I was going around confused and then I found
Moody's book on NDE and it helped me to understand what I had experienced.
Grandma was saying good bye and don't worry about me. I have told my story to a
few people and a few patients of mine, only when felt led, so it feels good to
send it to people who get it. Thank you, Becky
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
Patting on my knee and feeling going up through my body.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Patting my knee, very familiar. Feeling going up my body, never and never since.
Was anything communicated by the touch? Freedom, love, peace, happiness, I'm gone.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? Seconds
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Quick
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
She was free!
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I was there and experienced it. It is still with me to this day. No one can tell me it didn't happen, it did.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was feeling what grandma was showing me and feeling herself. I wanted to go with her and stay in that place of joy, etc.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
After reading about NDE S and how people felt during their experiences.. then I understood what I felt.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? My grandmother passing. I adored her. My first death experience. Best was knowing she was free and gone.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes Just that death is just part of the circle of life. I was at peace when my father passed in 2015.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes That there is life after death.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Confusion about what had happened, but happy for grandma.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
My mother was talking and in mid sentence said " I feel something" My Aunt said she watched my Mother react to something and how I immediately reacted to something right then. She felt nothing.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Uncertain
I seem to sometimes sense when an older person is close to death.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Some didn't say much. Others had stories of their own. Older people seem to find some peace with what I told them.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
Truthfully, I have had two visions that came true, but that's all.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes