As I stated above, my incarcerated fianc received the primary communication from my father, the first one, the one I came on this website to share. The two of them did not know one another in life. My father had met my fianc many years prior when we were casual acquaintances. We met at a power lifting competition, and my father was there to watch me compete. My fianc was married at the time. Our relationship began after he became incarcerated, and since my father was ill, he was unable to visit the prison.  

A few days before my father passed, I told him that if he saw a light and wanted to go to it, that it was okay to go. I told him that while I really wanted him to stay, I would be okay if he wanted to go to the light. I asked him to let me know if he was okay once he got to the light, and I asked him to please watch over my fianc in prison because he would have ways to protect him that I did not from out here.  

The communication to my fianc occurred a few days after my father passed. I don't recall exactly when, as it was a very difficult time for me and it's like I was living in a vacuum then. Since my fianc was unable to attend the funeral, I asked him to choose a verse for the prayer card. He spent several days reading the bible and was having difficulty finding the right prayer. He got tired at one point during this particular afternoon and took a break and turned on the radio. After a short time, a song came on the radio that he had never heard before. He began feeling very emotional and was soon overcome with emotion but had no idea why. Then he heard my father's voice in his head telling him, "it's okay. It isn't there. What you're looking for isn't there. It's not important. What is important is to tell Beth to listen to this song, and tell her that it's from me".  

Well, my fianc was wondering what he would do if the radio DJ. did not give the name of the song, because he did not know it. He listened to the words very intently. Fortunately the DJ. gave the song title. My fianc called me later that evening to confirm our visit the next day, and he told me what had happened. He was very insistent that I needed to listen to the song right away. The song was "I Hope You Dance" by Leann Womack. It was one of my father's favorite songs. He was a guitarist and singer, and I can remember him playing and singing that song so many times! I immediately found the song online and listened to it, and I could hear my father singing it in my heart. I later got the CD from his house and buried him with the CD.  

My experience with my father, the second one, happened a few days later when I was waiting for my fianc to call me and let me know what verse he decided on for the prayer card. I became panicked because several days had passed and I had not heard from my fianc, and I had to let the undertaker know what to print on the card. The next day was the absolute deadline for the cards to be printed in time for the funeral. So I asked my father that evening to help break whatever the blockage was that was keeping my fianc from getting through on the phone. (It's most always overloaded trunk lines and too many people trying to use too few phones.) I told my father it was very important, that my fianc needed to call me because he was helping with the funeral arrangements. Shortly thereafter, the phone rang and it was my fianc. Not more than a minute into our conversation, the living room lamp started blinking wildly, and I mean blinking like I had never seen a light blink, and certainly not like when the light bulb needs to be replaced. My father was and electronics hobbyist. The light went so bright, and the entire room lit up more brightly than usual, like it was illuminated by my father's spirit. I absolutely knew it was him coming through with a message like, "there you go, Beth, I helped him get through on the phone for you!". 

Since that time, I have felt my father's energy with me numerous times. When I need to feel comforted, I call him and he comes to me.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        both my fianc's experience and mine lasted a few minutes.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         My fianc's awareness of being drawn to the song on the radio was immediate, as was my awareness that my father was making the light blink. My fianc's experience had a lasting effect on him, and the residual energy of my father that I felt in the room lasted a while as well.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

My finance was aware of the urgency in my father's mood when the message came through. I could actually feel my father's happiness when he made the light blink. It was as if he was having fun with it. My father had a great sense of humor.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  no for either of us.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           My father loved me very much, and he knew how much I love my fianc. He wanted nothing more than to see the two of us work through this difficult period of his incarceration and have a happy life together. I don't believe my father believed in after death communication, as he would joke with me that I was crazy whenever I brought such things up in conversation. For him to communicate with my fianc through music validated his love of music. There is no greater gift that he could give me in his passing than to honor me and my love for my fianc by communicating his message to me through my fianc. It is the most wonderful thing he has ever done for me. My fianc also believes absolutely that the experience was very real. The message and the meaning of the music came through to him very clearly.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           My fianc was feeling frustrated because he had been unable to find the appropriate prayer; at the time of the communication he thought the radio would help him relax and refocus. I was grieving my father's death at the time of my event and was also sad because I was missing my fianc.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

I am uncertain about emotional healing for my fianc since he was not as impacted by my father's death as I was. I definitely had healing. I knew that my father heard everything I said to him, from going to the light to my request that he watch over my fianc to my asking him for help with the phone communication with my fianc.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Everything about it was the absolute best I could ask for. The worst part of it is that my fianc and I are separated by his incarceration and could not experience it together.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No      

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No       Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  Yes            Both myself and my fianc already felt strongly that all of the above exist. Now our beliefs have been validated.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        No

I plan to make an agreement with my fianc.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            We both felt peaceful and happy after the experiences.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           Yes

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?           No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     They all listen but don't say much.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       no, but I would very much like to discuss this further so I could give some clarification on some of the answers, since I am responding both for myself and my fianc.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

I would like to discuss this in person.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes