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Brenda M's ADC

Experience description:  

I was devastated when my stepfather died as we had become very close. Even though I knew he was going it still physically hurt when he passed. For a few weeks after he died, I was walking around severely depressed with no urge to do anything. I went to sleep one night and dreamt that I was walking round in a market place in Crewe, ( my birth town, and where my mum and step dad met). I suddenly realized that he was stood next to me, but looked chubby and well, like he did before he got cancer. He then took me by the hand, lifted his left leg and we flew over a wall that was at the end of the market. We flew around for a while, then landed. I then saw my mum and one of my aunties talking. We stood next to them, and my stepdad was trying to talk to my mum, but she couldn't hear him. He was getting really frustrated and said to me that she was shutting him out. I then looked down at my hands and realized that I had 2 rings on. One was a purple diamond shaped ring on my 2nd finger on my left hand. The other ring was on my wedding finger. He told me that the rings were left to him by his grandmother and he was leaving them to me. I then woke up. I felt so different when I woke up, it was amazing.

I went to the shop to get something, and realized that I was whistling a tune, and felt so much happier than I had done the night before. I told my mum about my dream when I next saw her, and she said that she had felt that my stepdad was around, but was scared in case she saw him or anything. She then confirmed that he had been left some jewelry by his grandma but he hadn't received it, his auntie had it. The other mad thing about this dream was the ring finger having a ring on it, as I was in the process of divorcing my husband. So I thought that this part of the dream was wrong, as I very much doubted that I would marry again. I met my new husband approx 2 and a half years later, and when we booked the wedding, we couldn't get the date we wanted, so had to take the only date available which was 11-10. I later found out that the day we married was exactly 10 years to the day that my mum and stepdad had married. The second part of this happened today. A close friend of mine died very young on 4 April this year and I was at his funeral yesterday. I keep feeling a sense of panic, and it was worrying me that it had something to do with my friend, so I was sat outside in the garden as it was sunny. I had gone to the library this morning, even though I was not going to as I hadn't finished one of the books that needed returning. I decided to go in anyway and just renew it. While I was sat in the garden, I asked if someone could show me that my friend was ok. I was reading the book "after death communication", and I got to a page where a man had written in to say that he had seen his wife after she had passed. The man's name was the same as my stepdad's brother, but I wasn't sure if his wife was called Amanda as she is in the book, so I rang my mum to check. Sure enough the Marc who had written in is my uncle! As you can imagine I was slightly floored by this, and am not sure if it is just a coincidence or if it was my stepdad letting me know that he is looking after my friend.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?          No


Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         Yes   My stepdad looked the same in the dream as he did before he got cancer.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Solid

            How much of the deceased did you see?       All

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       Same age but healthier

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            Died of cancer, lost a lot of weight, appeared fuller and healthier, as he did before he got cancer

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Uncertain

Frustrated at my mum, but happy, and like a child who has just discovered a talent, when he said he could fly.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  rings handed down from grandmother, not being able to contact my mum

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           because of the way it changed how I was feeling

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Yes

I was asleep at the time.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           Happy that I could see him

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      worst part was waking up, didn't want to say goodbye again, but whole dream was best part.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No                 

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   No      

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  Uncertain           

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Yes about the rings left by his grandmother, checked with my Mum

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            very happy as I felt like he was ok

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         Uncertain   I have been told by a psychic that I am a healer.

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes     My mum was happy, as she felt that he was ok

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes