after my mother died. I got a phone call at 4:30 am. It was quiet and then full
of static. I thought it was my grandmother who sounded like my mother who died
27 hours before. I heard my name then "Are you ok? I'm ok." Then I said
"huh?!?!" I hung up thinking a cousin, my grandmother (who my mom sounds like
called me). I told my dad later in the day. He laughed it off. Told my mother's
mother who confirmed it was not her. It sounded so much like my mom. So I said
to the ceiling a few hours later. "Mom, they think I'm crazy. I looked this up
and I believe it's you. If it was you. Call [my brother]! The next day, my
father called to tell me my brother had the same experience with two phone calls
of the same caliber but couldn't make out the words. I know it was my mom
because she always called me "her hippie child" and I know she knows that I'm
inquisitive by nature with an open heart and would believe such. Also...like
many others who I've researched...the phone ring was loud! I know it happened
because I keep the ringer of my phone off as it startles me. For some reason
that night it was on and get this...my dad was in the military for many years
and kept military hours where they woke up EVERY morning at 4:30am! for over 40
years, mind you.
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? Outside! On the phone!
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? ABSOLUTELY! I talked to my mother everyday! Many times a day. Minimum of 10x per day.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No!
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? Less than a minute.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Gradual. There was quiet for a few seconds. Then static. Then words were spoken. Then no static and just quiet. I hung up. Less than a minute.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
My mother seemed to want to comfort me. She asked if I was ok. She assured me she was ok. Nothing past that.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I was extremely close to my mother. She got a very bad deal by a very bad doctor and hospital. She went in for something minor and all hell broke loose. I asked her months before to consider a living donor situation and told her not to make me have to go through with having to bury her. She dropped hints that she might not be around for things. The last time I spoke to her in the hospital after last rights were read, I said "Please...check in on me from time to time." She knows that we always, ALWAYS call each other regardless of living a few cities apart or wherever I am in the world. We always call each other just to check in. I know she heard me and did just so. The fact that she called my brother after I told her that nobody believes me says alot as he is not like me in the hippy sense as my mom would jokingly say...
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was awaken suddenly. Thought it was my grandma or a cousin. Expected they had a bad connection and would call back. That never happened. I think I panicked and thought they could talk to the answer machine so I turned the phone ringer off. It was off when I woke up. I felt shaken remembering and confused till I asked all who could have possibly called at that hour to affirm they didn't!
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
I felt better knowing she was checking in on me the way she did when she was alive. I felt a sense of confirmation after I asked for her to call my brother...and found out that he experienced two phone calls (this I believe because it would take more than one for him to comprehend! ROFL!).
What was the best and worst part of your experience? I got to hear my mother again.
I kept the phone on
waiting for many days to hear from her again only to not. That was very sad.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I talk to the sky more! :)
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes See above.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes See above.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No No, I don't have caller ID to see that number of zero's that show up that I saw after researching on the web.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? I was tired (see above) then the next morning a bit freaked out!
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
No, I live alone except for a pet who sleeps with me and woke up, too. He hates phones ringing!!!
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Father, grandmother, cousins. No - except my father told my brother of my experience and he now talks alot to her urn!
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? Yes
I had wine with dinner. That's it.
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
A day ago when I thought a car was going to hit me...it stopped within inches.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. Your questionnaire is really too long, sorry. Move your validation question to the bottom. It risks people hitting submit after 47 questions and then loosing all data which means you lose getting data because most people won't want to re-write all this. Just a thought from a person with a BA in Marketing!