Candy L's ADC
I missed my dad very much. I was with him when he passed away a few weeks prior. I loved him so much. I wanted just one more visit with him and I'd be satisfied. That night I awoke to see him standing by the bed smiling...he had on his work clothes as usual. I could smell him too. He stayed a few seconds, maybe 10 or so. I felt so loved and comforted and thankful that he had made my desire come true ~to see and visit him one more time.
event happened a few weeks after, maybe a month or more. I was working with my
sister and another group of people. Our sarcastic supervisor came across us.
We were taking a well earned break. As the supervisor was about to leave, I
distinctly heard my dad make a funny, caustic remark about him. I was so
shocked, I turned and expected to see him behind me. I asked my sister later if
she heard him. No one had but me. It was so funny, I felt so lucky to have him
speak to me.
Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience: The first time I was asleep with my husband. I was deeply grieving my Dad. I wanted just "one more time to spend with him" and I'd be satisfied. That night I awoke to see him beside me in the room, standing by my bed. I could smell him and although no words were passed between us, I felt immense comfort and love and was satisfied.
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience: Moderately severe sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience: Asleep
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences? Yes 2
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? The voice was definitely behind me, I heard it clearly.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Exactly the same as when he was alive.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
At my bedside, he wore his hair the same, had on his work clothes.
How clearly did the deceased appear? It was dark, but I could see him in the shadows quite well. An outside light shed some light in the bedroom.
How much of the deceased did you see? To his hips.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? Same age but didn't look as grey haired, it was more brown.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? Seemed healthy.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? Yes
What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell? My dad smelled like wood shavings and the earth since he worked a lot cutting and splitting wood after he retired. He also had a vegetable garden.
Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar? Same as when he was alive.
Was anything communicated by the smell? no
Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no
How long did the experience last? bedside, maybe 10 seconds
about 4 seconds, long enough to make a comment.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? sudden both times.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
first by my bed, he was happy. At work, he was happy and joking.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I know my dad and what he looked like, how he smelled and joked and talked. It was as real to me as speaking, seeing or hearing someone still alive.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: peaceful, happy to hear from him, relieved he was still ok
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
I felt like he wasn't really gone forever, just gone to another place until I went to join him.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The best was knowing he came to comfort me like he always did and granted my wish. I loved knowing he still had a sense of humor. There was no worse part, except I can't visit him like I used to.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Uncertain Hi comment about my boss is not something I would say or dream up, it was so totally like him that I still laugh when I think of it.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? joy and peace
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes I told my sister, husband and Mom. They seemed incredulous.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
I died during a routine surgery and had an experience. I had dreamed every few days about the same thing for about 3 weeks before the surgery.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes