the next night was the experience i described before of the bright white light in my kitchen window.   a few weeks later  i smelled her perfume when i walked past her ashes.  then i had a dream that she took me to show me where she is now it was a really beautiful place. i woke up thinking that i had to remember all of my dream but the next instant it disappeared i was so exhausted i felt like i'd been working all night and all i can remember is that it was a beautiful place and Trudy was very happy.

Strangely my grandson and Trudy's best friend both had similar dreams.   a few days before Christmas was my last experience. my cats did not come home that night. in the morning i turned on the tv and i saw a shadow moving around me. i told myself not to be so stupid and then it happened again that day. when i got home from work all my cats were home except Winston. i started to panic thinking something had happened to him then this strange feeling of total calm came over me and a few seconds later Winston walked through the door. this cat has given me such comfort since Trudy died he knows when i'm sad and starts licking my face. four months before Trudy died, my father died two hours before he died Winston started this.

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:  

like i said before i heard Trudy's voice clearly telling me not to be frightened

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? 

her voice was outside of me just like she was talking to me when she was living

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?          

her voice was exactly the same as when she was alive

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?          

none whatsoever

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?  

no

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?     

Yes

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?          

i smelt Trudy's perfume beautiful by estee lauder

            Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?    

exactly the same

            Was anything communicated by the smell?  

no

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?       

yes maybe I've got her perfume i wear it on special occasions and this day wasn't one of them even so you don't smell your own perfume

How long did the experience last?       

a second or two

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

it was a fleeting smell of her

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:         

i did not imagine hearing Trudy's voice or my other experiences in fact i'd never heard of it happening before

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

i felt quite calm

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

Yes

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

believing that Trudy is happy no bad parts

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

Yes

            Describe:     

yes and no. i'm more caring to those who deserve it but those who aren't i've dumped. my address book has got a lot lighter

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

i unused to think that death was final now i know it's not

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?           

Yes, i used to be afraid of death i fear it no more

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         

Yes,

my grandson saw the bright light and he was frightened

What emotions did you feel during the experience?           

i got comfort from my experience

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          

Yes

one time-my grandson was with me in my kitchen and we saw a bright white light move from one side of the window to the other and my cats were terrified

Did you see a light?          

Yes

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?           

Yes

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes, some believe me. my sister thinks my house is full of black magic and witchcraft

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  

No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?        

No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?          

No,

my grandmother did and as a child i thought she was stupid

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?              

Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.   

no there were more than enough questions