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Carol D's ADC

Experience description:  

Initial Experience:

We had turned the ventilator off that afternoon on my father and my husband and I had gone home that evening because they said it could be up to a week before my father passed and I was about two months pregnant at the time so I was very tired. Something just told me it would be ok and it was just so difficult to be there. That night my husband and I were going to bed. He was already in and I was turning out the lights when I walked by the family room and the TV was on. I had turned it off earlier that night, so I asked my husband and he said he hadn't turned it on. I had a sense of worry and I asked him if he thought something happened to my father. I thought about calling my mother and at exactly 12:05 AM, nearly three minutes after my experience my mother called and told me my father passed. On an additional note my father loved watching TV and when he was home he spent about 85% of his time watching TV I would guess. 

The next morning I awoke, went in the TV room and there the TV was on again, but it was now on a channel we don't watch and we definitely were not watching the night before and of all things it was on a show about Animal Answers and Pets, which my father was a veterinarian. 

My TV experience happened for about a month after he passed maybe once a week with the exception of that two day experience after his death. At times the TV may just go fuzzy or turn off or on unexpectedly. I went to my neighbors asking if it was possible their TVs were acting strange because we had seen before where if someone has the same TV it could change your neighbors channels, but we were only ones having the experience. 

Other Experience:

My husband bought me an alarm clock for an IPod one Christmas and we always tend to get interference because we live close to an airport, but after my father passed it happened three or four times a night and on occasion my alarm would just start going off. It got so bad I eventually unplugged the thing and it stopped. My father always wanted to do a family cruise, but passed before we could and then my sister passed less than a year after him, so my mom felt it was important to try to do the cruise. April of this year (2010) we went on a cruise, but when I had first heard of my mom planning it I was very hesitant and did not want to go because I have two very small children, but she encouraged me to do it. The morning we were leaving I was about to go and shower and as I was walking into the bedroom to go shower there laid the alarm clock still unplugged and on the ground going off. It never went off before that or since that. I thought it was his way of saying to go and have a good time.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        It was obviously electronic so it may last anywhere from a second to a few minutes of questioning what just happened.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         always sudden and unexpected

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           No

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           It could have been convenience. My sister died less than a year after my died unexpectedly also. I always thought she would be the one to communicate. I want to believe communication is real, but part of me still doubts it because I never physically saw anything or heard my father. It was electronic experiences.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I was questionable as to if I was being too hopeful and making myself think that every occurrence could be a sign of my father because I felt no closure. I was happy at the thought that possibly my father is still around. I was still sad though because it brought back memories.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           No

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Not actually physically hearing or seeing him. The animal show really gave me a sense of maybe he is ok.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No      

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No      

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  No           

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   Uncertain

I always thought my sister would try to contact me after she passed or contact someone because she was just that type of spiritual person into those types of things, but I have never had an experience. My experiences were with my father.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            I was questionable as to if I was being too hopeful and making myself think that every occurrence could be a sign of my father because I felt no closure. I was happy at the thought that possibly my father is still around. I was still sad though because it brought back memories.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           Yes

My husband saw the end result or heard it. For example, he saw the TV act weird or turn on or heard my alarm go off in middle of night when it was off.

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     There was never much of a reaction. Some thought it was interesting. I am sure my mother was upset and questionable. She mentioned she had no experiences.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes