Cary C's ADCs
#1. Upon our father's death, we noticed that a religious medal he always wore was missing from his personal effects. We assumed that when the paramedics were working on him, it had been torn off. We called the hospital, the paramedics and scoured the location where he had the heart attack. No medal. We were devastated. I had a feeling, however, we would find it as my father always wore it and I knew that he would not allow it to get lost. As a small child, my daughter often played with it while it was around his neck and we have photos of her doing so.
About 2 weeks after his death, my daughter (now 23) whom he was very close to, was at his home with my mother. She was in the kitchen, getting a new plastic garbage bag from a roll purchased from the store to put some items in it that she was donating to charity. She snapped open the new bag, and felt something in the bottom of it. There was the medal! There's no way anyone could have put it in the bag this as the bag was brand new, and Dad never took that medal off. It was broken as we assumed it would be since it was torn off of him during the paramedics unsuccessful attempts to revive him. We had it repaired and it is now a very special gift from my father to my daughter. And validation for us all that he is with us.
#2 About a week after my father's death, my husband I were walking our dogs on a beach near our home, something we do often. It was the first time we had been back to the beach since Dad had died. I was grieving sorely and thinking of my Dad, trying to accept that he was gone from the physical world. With tears in my eyes, I looked down on the sand, and there was a perfect heart-shaped stone. I knew it was from Dad so I picked it up and I keep it in a very special place. If I ever need a reminder of his love, I hold that stone and thank God for this gift.
#3 About a week after Dad's death, I was alone in my kitchen preparing breakfast. I was feeling pretty low and just going through the motions of preparing breakfast. My Dad loved to make huge breakfasts for the family, his specialty being pancakes and waffles. Out of the blue, came 5 sharp knocks from a kitchen cabinet where I keep mixing bowls, etc. For a minute, I thought our dog was in the cupboard, playing games with me, but she'd never done that before and I knew that she wasn't in the room at that time. I looked in the cabinet, saw nothing and resumed making breakfast. Again, I heard 5 knocks form the cabinet. I knew then it was Dad, checking in and just saying hello, I'm here with you.
#4 About one month after the death of my Dad, I was home alone and feeling low. The doorbell rang and I got up to answer it. At the door was a young couple, who told me that their friends had just purchased the property adjacent to ours and they wanted to come and say hello. I have no idea how things transpired, but the woman handed me an angel in a box with a beautiful poem. She told me she had just bought it and didn't know why. She felt that she had to give it to me, as it was meant to be mine. They then turned around and left me with this beautiful angel and the lovely words of love and reassurance that came with it. I have never seen these people again and no one knows who they are.
#5 I was
driving to my mother's home about a week after the death of my father. I was on
the freeway, with some traffic at night. I was driving their car, for reasons I
don't recall. I was angry, upset and in tears, grieving sorely for the sudden
loss of Dad. I knew I was driving too fast and perhaps recklessly, but I just
didn't care. As I was making a lane change to exit the freeway by my parents'
home. I felt a distinctive smack on my head, as if someone was saying "Hey,
knock off the fast driving. It's dangerous, you're putting yourself in jeopardy
and you're driving MY car!' I knew it was my Dad, always watching out for us
and, in this case, reminding me to slow down as I still have my life to live.
Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience: sorting clothing out for charity at my father's home, walking on the beach,
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience: Severe sadness and/or grief feelings
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences? Yes 4
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
On the head, a distinct, but soft smack to the left upper side.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Somewhat familiar. playful but serious at the same time
Was anything communicated by the touch? Concern
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No, I was alone in the car and the windows were closed.
Did you see the deceased? Uncertain
I sensed him with me. He was young, healthy and smiling happily.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Uncertain
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I have been blessed by numerous experiences that cannot be anything but ADC. Too many things have happened to ascribe them to coincidence.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Surprise and reassurance
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The worst is that they didn't last longer. The best was of course, getting validation from Dad that he was still with us. And of course, the sheer delight and surprise in getting these messages.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I now have proof that Dad is still with us. That he remains near.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes An affirmation that our loved ones stay close to us and that they are still with us
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? Uncertain
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Yes Physical manifestation of gifts were central to 3 events.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Great love and a sense of peace.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes my mother
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Surprise, disbelief, joy
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes