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Cheryl M's ADC

Experience description:  

Touch lamp in my bedroom would turn on. At first I noticed when I came home from work that it was on, so I turned it off.  I never used it.  It got to the point that I would wake up in the morning and it was on.  I would turn it off, go downstairs and when I came back to my bedroom, it was on.  It happened 10 times before it hit me that maybe it was Bobby letting me know he was ok.  It gave me comfort and sometimes I would say "Good Night, God Bless, sweet dreams & I love you when I went to bed.  Sometimes when I woke up in the AM, I'd say Good Morning Glory.  I left the lamp on as I knew his spirit was with me.  After a month or so, the lamp turned off.  After a week of the lamp being off, I was feeling down.  I was in my room getting ready for bed and I said, Bobby, I know that you are probably visiting your friends or helping someone, but please come back to me when you're done.  I sat down on the bed and that lamp turned on...  I just cried.  I was sure his spirit was with me.  I told everyone that story.  I worked in an environment where there was too much office politics and ended up quitting after I caught management mocking me. (had put up with office garbage for 10 years)  I was so relieved after 1 week, that lamp went off.  (Aug/2011)  September I found out employer is telling people that I'm crazy (because of the lamp story) The lamp came back on around Sept. 11, 2011.

After the second time the lamp turned on, I wondered if maybe a fly or a spider would be heavy enough to turn it on.  I got a plastic straw and kept tapping the lamp with the straw & it wouldn't turn on.  I kept turning it off & it would turn back on.  I kept praying for my son to visit me in my dreams, because he had visited his brother, girlfriend & friends.  My sons have always been the lights of my life. I believe that he was letting me know, that although he went to heaven, that his spirit with with me and he was still a light in my life.  I missed him so much.  I took comfort in the signs he sent to me with that lamp.  I have faith and believe that everything in life happens for a reason.  God gave him to me for 21 short years and I was more than proud to be his mother. The healing that I received from the lamp was worth the hell I'm going through now over telling that story to coworkers. 

I have smelled his cologne a few times in the house.  That had nothing to do with the lamp.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No


Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      Yes

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?           It was the scent of the cologne that he always wore

            Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?     Yes

            Was anything communicated by the smell?   No

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?        Not at all

How long did the experience last?        5 minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         gradual

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           Because it turned on when I asked him to come back.  This was a minute after I said that aloud in my bedroom.  Did I look at the lamp & talk to it?  No....  That was my proof

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I just started to cry.  I couldn't believe it.  I am sure that I probably thanked him and told him that I missed him.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

I felt validated that his spirit was with me

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      The comfort I received helped in trying to heal 

It is now making me physically ill that it's being used against me.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes                 Describe:            Yes.....  It was wonderful to have the comfort 

It is disgusting that it's being used to "trash" my name.       

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   Yes     I felt validated the his spirit is here

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes     I have dealt with grief before, but not of this magnitude.  I believed when I got pregnant with him, that he was a gift from God.  I was watching my mother die of cancer when I got pregnant.  I was also on birth control.  I felt that he was given to me as a gift to keep me strong and to have hope during the roughest time in my life at that point.  My brother committed suicide when I was 17 and he was 15.  I grieved & watched my parents grieve.  I try to learn something from every bad experience in life.  Someone always has it 10 times worse than you.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Comfort and contentment


Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?      The light from the lamp

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes     They were happy for me, at least my family & true friends were.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       Just tell people not to tell people they work with in a backstabbing, gossiping environment.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            Yes

I was put on Prozac, but I never associated the two.

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

Spiritual-panick attacks to fly.... I prayed so hard as we were taking off and when we leveled off in the sky, I felt a warmth go through my body anong with a calmness and tears were flowing from my eyes.  I was in God's hands.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes