Connie M's ADC

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Experience description:

I was due to undergo a lung biopsy.  Chronic pneumonia and lung pain.  On x-ray found a spot on lung that they needed to investigate.

When I fell asleep I had a very vivid dream of seeing my Father. (that was the first and last time that I have dreamed of him.) The location of where the meeting took place was blank.  He was just standing there.  I ran to him, yelled Dad and threw my arms around him. He did not return my embrace.  He just stood there with his arms down my his side, very stiff.  I started crying in my dreams because he would not return my embrace and woke from my dream crying.  The entire day I kept thinking about my dream and was still so very sad that he was not happy to see me and give me a huge hug.  Later that evening as the dream replayed in my head it finally dawned on me that the reason my Dad did not return my hug.  It was his way of telling me that I was going to be alright. He did not embrace me because I was not going to join him at that time.  It was not my time and my biopsy was going to be fine.  Needless to say I did not fear the outcome of my surgery.  I was already given my answer.

Did you see the deceased?  Yes

Describe the appearance of the deceased:  In my dream my father appeared about the same age and had the same physical appearance when alive.

How clearly did the deceased appear?  He appeared very solid in my dream

How much of the deceased did you see?  In my dream I say all of my Father

Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?  Appeared to be the same age

How healthy did the deceased appear to be?  He appeared to be healthy

How long did the experience last?  During the dream I really have not idea

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?  The end was sudden as I woke up crying

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?  My Dad was very stoic.
Describe:  My Dad was very stoic.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  The only information I received was what I concluded from the hug not being returned.  My conclusion was correct.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience:  Experience was definitely real

What did you feel (while awake) immediately prior to your experience?      Confused
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:  During the dream and most of the day following the dream I was very sad.  After thinking it through I was relieved and very happy that my Dad was in contact with me.

What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have:      Joy
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?  Yes
Describe:  I knew my Dad was in a good place and was looking over me.  As in life and in death he is still with me.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  Yes
Describe:  I always believed in life after death.  I never thought that I would experience any type of contact with any of my loved ones while I was still alive.  I felt that they were watching over me but would never make their presence known.

Has the experience affected your relationships?  Daily life?  Religious practices etc.?  Career choices?  I am open to the fact that a loved one can communicate with you in special circumstances.

Have you shared this experience with others?  Yes

      Describe:  I am not sure they believed my reasoning of the event.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  No

What emotions/feelings did you experience following your experience?  Sad, happy, relief

What was the best and worst part of your experience?  The worst part was not knowing why my Dad would not return my embrace.  The best part was in my realization why he did what he did.

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?  No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?  Yes