My brother, Kerry died in a car accident fall of 1981, which I had a few dreams about him after those first few months, but a few years later in 1984 I was living and working in Mississauga, Ontario.  One of my cousins came over as she was going to a seminar or something and needed a place to crash.  I gave her my room for the night in my apartment and I slept in the living room on the couch.  Sometime during the night I woke up. I could see everything in the room the coffee table the patio windows and Kerry was sitting beside me on the couch.  He said, "Don't worry, everything will be ok", he gave me a hug.  I felt so comforted and loved, that I just relaxed and fell back asleep.  In the morning around 9 my aunt phoned and wanted to speak with my cousin Helen, my aunt told us that our grandfather had passed away during the night.  I'm not sure if I told my cousin about what happened during the night, but when I went to my parents, I did tell my sisters.

I feel my brother had come to be there when grandpa died.

 Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:    I believe my brother spoke to me, though I don't know if it was just in my head that I heard it.

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  I believe it was his voice.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           similar to when he was alive.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            Yes

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   it was comforting

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  that I was cared about and loved

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  no

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            solid

            How much of the deceased did you see?       I noticed him mostly from the waist up as I think he was sitting beside me.

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       he appeared similar to the age at which he died.  he looked the same.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            very healthy as he was in life.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        just a few minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         beginning was more sudden, the end of the experience I think was more gradual.  I seem to be very relaxed and fell asleep.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Uncertain

I don't know if there were a lot of emotion  or mood with him.  Mostly just a feeling of love and kindness.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  no

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           I believe it was real, because everything in the room was so clear and real, not like I was sleeping and dreaming, sometimes I am not sure.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I felt happy and comforted and then relaxed, like everything would be ok.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Uncertain

I worried where people went after they died prior to this.  Sometimes I still do.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      the feeling of love

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No     

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No      

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Upon waking in the morning, I made sue all the furniture was as I had seen it during the experience, just to make sure it wasn't a dream I somehow had.

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes    

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

out of body after my brother died.  I was so tired and relatives had come for the funeral and were visiting, I went and laid down in the bedroom at my parents house.  I fell asleep, but a part of me wanted to get up and visit with everyone.  I walked down the hallway to the kitchen, saw my mom and others in the kitchen, went through to the dining room around to the living room and my aunt and younger sisters where there.  Went back to my room and laid down.  I woke up, and thought that was strange.  Got up, went out to the kitchen where my mom was sitting exactly as just a few minutes before I had seen her.  I asked her if I had walked through here a few minutes ago.  She said, No that I hadn't.  I am pretty sure I had an out of body experience, but have never had anything like that since.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes

yes, I think it pretty much describes everything that I can remember of the experience. 

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    I have had dreams where they have come true in the past, not so much the last few years.