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My Mother was one week away from passing on from Parkinson's. She was in and out of consciousness that last week of her life. That night, I was sleeping and had a strong feeling in my mind that someone was kind of observing me. This brought me awake and I looked into the corner of the room about fifteen feet away and saw my Mother's image kind of hanging in the air. She had a very sad look on her face as she hovered there staring at me. I purposely did not let myself blink so I could hold on to the image as long as possible. After maybe thirty seconds, she drifted back and at the same time her image diffused into nothing. I was left kind of confused and felt maybe she had died that night only to be left more confused to find out the next morning she had not.
My sister was in a one car accident that left her in a coma with severe brain damage. She was being kept alive by machine and our family did not want to give up hope that she may pull through the ordeal somehow. It was a desperate wish with the seriousness of her condition. That night, of the day of the accident, I had gone home to get some sleep with the intention of returning the next morning. I had an intensely real dream of my sister. She was lead to me, in a place that was kind of foggy and dark, by a dark haired woman. The other woman stopped a short distance away as my sister approach me. She came up to me and I looked into her face.
She was smiling very brightly and I felt she was happier than I had ever seen her in my life. She also had a kind of mischievous gleam in her eye that seemed to tell me she was free of any kind of worry and that maybe she was up to something. Then she moved her face within an inch of mine so that all I could see was her bright blue eyes. Suddenly the left eye, the eye that is her left eye, turned from blue to completely white, then back to blue again. This occurred about three times then she backed away. I quickly embraced her and told her I loved her and then she turned away as the dark hair lady joined her and lead her off into the dark void of this place.
I awoke and was sweating although it was quite cold in the room. I knew for some reason she had come to tell me something but I was confused as to what it was. I told my family about the dream and was met with more than a little skepticism. I kept turning the events of that dream over and over in my mind as I sat there in the hospital in a kind of daze. Three days later she died. Maybe a week later I was just sitting thinking of that strange dream and thinking about why she came so close to my face to let me see her left eye change like that. I just started focusing on what she did with her eye. I thought to my self: Left eye...left eye...then it hit me! I left. She was telling me she had already left her body and by the looks of her, she was very very happy to have done so. I felt I could accept her death after that experience of the dream.
and I lost our first son after he was 7 months in utero. At the funeral I asked
him, in a kind little prayer, that if he was ok could he somehow show everyone.
Then I started thinking it may be too much to ask and I then changed the request
to just my wife and myself if he could. A week later, while sleeping I was
awaken by my wife in the middle of the night. She was very agitated and told me
she had just felt a cold wind blow up her back. I tried to comfort her a little
as I fought off the pull of sleep. She laid back down and I started to drift
off again. Suddenly I felt a cold wind blow up my back as well. If it was the
power of suggestion it was the first time in my life that it had happened. It
was a very real sensation and I was not completely asleep at the time it
occurred. I felt like this was the answer to my request by our infant son.
Although I had had several things in my life happen to me that were kind of
paranormal, my wife had never had anything happen to her prior to this event.
She now is a believer.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Uncertain
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I thought I may have heard my son telling me to relax as he was singing but it was more like a sound that is originating inside my mind rather than from the outside.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? Inside. Like a thought transfer or something.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? This I cannot say due to the deceased being an infant at the time of departure.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No. The room was quite silent.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No, my hearing is and was good at the time.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
First I had the dream of my son singing to me and then I was awoken by my wife and she was telling me she had felt a cold wind flow up her back and it had been what had brought her awake. Then just as I was about to drift off to sleep again, I felt the same thing as my wife had.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? It was a feeling as if you were standing with your bare back to a freezer and someone then opened the door. It kind of quickly drifted all the way up my and her backs.
Was anything communicated by the touch? Yes. I had asked my son, at the funeral several days earlier, to please give me a sign of some kind to show me that he was in the next world. I had asked to give my wife a sign also if he could.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No. Could not have been. We were in bed with the blankets pulled up to our necks.
Did you see the deceased? Yes
My Mother looked the same as when she was here on earth. My Sister looked younger, prettier and glowing with life and joy. My son was not clear, it was not as intense an experience.
How clearly did the deceased appear? In the dream of my sister she appeared very clear. Mother appeared less clear and my son just a brief glimpse.
How much of the deceased did you see? I was focused on the upper portion of their bodies. I can't remember seeing their full body shape.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? Mother may have appeared a little younger, Sister looked much younger and very happy, my son appeared as he may have at about twenty years of age.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? They all appeared to be ok physically.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? The sight of my Mother lasted about twenty seconds, my sister seemed to be maybe thirty seconds and my son was only maybe five seconds.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Both beginning and end of each were a gradual events
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Mother seemed to be sad and maybe heart broken for some reason. Sister was happier than I had ever seen her. My son was kind of neutral, he just seemed content.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? Yes, my sister told me she had already left her comatose body at a time when none of the family knew if she was going to make it or not.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was probably real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: When my wife and I both had the same thing happen to us only moments apart it kind of proved to me that it was a real experience.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Uncertain
I was asleep when I saw my sister yet the dream was different than a normal dream. It seemed that time kind of stopped and my consciousness was fully alert that something profound was happening.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I felt sorry for my Mother because she didn't seem too happy. I felt a strong feel of love for my sister when she paid me a visit. And I felt a longing for more when I dreamed of my son.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
I had a feeling of certainty about my sons after life existence. I was very happy for my sister to see how happy she was. My Mother I feel sad for because she looked to be sad herself.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Best was having the privilege of being visited. Worst is that it is too short.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes
I feel less uncertain about where we go when we die.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes, A stronger belief in the after life.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Sadness that the events could not go on longer so I could have seen more or possibly communicated with them.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
My wife experienced the event with our son a moment before I had.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? Yes
I felt as if time had stopped when I came close to my sister. It was a very peaceful feeling and I could sense a kind of loving energy that was in the background somehow.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? Uncertain
When I had the dream of my sister it seemed I was in another place just on the edge of this reality of the physical world.
meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?
There was a lady with black hair with my sister. She seemed to be leading my sister to me and then lead her away when the event ended.
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes
I am believed by those that know me well and know I am not a person to lie or have hallucinations. But I have been looked at like I was insane by those that I do not know well.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No but I hope I can have the chance to tell you more if I have the luck of more experiences.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. I guess I am not able to think of any at this time. Thanks for this opportunity to tell my experiences. Keep love in your heart. I know...not easy to do.