Debbie C's ADC 1677
It was the day before
my birthday, April 12, 2008. My sisters, brother, mother along with my daughter
and son, treated me to a dinner at my sister's house. I had requested for them
not to sing "Happy Birthday" to me. Dinner was great, we had dessert and my two
kids were headed out to a party. I decided to head home. My husband was working
the midnight shift, so I didn't expect him to be home until 7am. I left my
sister's at 11:00pm and arrived at my house around 11:35pm. I decided to shower.
I was feeling the sadness and the pain of the loss of my son and didn't feel
like watching TV or doing anything else, so I decided to go sleep. As soon as I
laid my head on the pillow, I felt a soft kiss on my temple and my son's voice
say, "Happy Birthday, mom." As I looked at the clock on my nightstand it was
12:00 midnight (April 13).
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I heard my son's voice like in a whisper say, "Happy Birthday, mom."
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? It seemed to originate externally and very close to my ear.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Yes, definitely it was my son's voice.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? I don't think so.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
It was on my temple and it was a soft kiss.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? It was familiar.
Was anything communicated by the touch? Love.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? Less than a minute.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? I'd say it was gradual.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes He felt happy.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: It felt so real, it was as if he was here physically.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
What did you feel (while awake) immediately prior to your experience? Relaxed
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Even though I still felt the grieving, he relaxed me and I was no longer so sad. I was able to sleep peacefully knowing that he was there with me.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? No
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Knowing that it wouldn't happen on a regular basis.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes I now am a true believer that all though we may die, our spirits live on. Just like state in the passage John 11:25-26
"I am the resurrection
and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; 26and
whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?"
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? I felt peaceful.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes Happiness.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes