I was engaged to a surgeon. I was asleep in bed in the bedroom and he came home very late, and told me some problems occurred which had kept him working late.  He went to sleep next to me, and I fell back asleep.   

A couple hours later, I was awakened because I sensed a presence in the room.  I could feel the presence of someone pacing and circling the bed. 

Further, I sensed it was a male presence. 

Further still, I sensed it was a paternal presence -- that of a father. 

At first, I wondered if it was the spirit of my deceased father. 

Then I picked up the feeling that the deceased spirit of a father was not concerned about me, but was concerned about my fiance. 

I then realized it was the spirit of my fiance's deceased father. 

The presence was very worried and upset.  It kept circling the bed, pacing the floor.  It would come around to my side, and then pace back around to my fiance's side of the bed. 

Finally, I woke up my fiance and told him that his father had come and that he was in our bedroom, and was very worried and upset. 

I asked my fiance what had happened that night at work. 

He then told me that a surgery he had performed had complications, and that the patient died.   

This incident led to my fiance's being suspended from the hospital, and he was unable to operate for many months until the case was investigated and resolved.  During that time, my fiance was extremely depressed and despondent.  The incident had a huge negative impact upon his life. 

I believe my fiance's deceased father foresaw that this incident was going to cause many problems in my fiance's life, and that is why he came that night in the bedroom.

Background Information:

Date of experience:          

1994

Length of time between death of deceased and your experience:         

unknown

Was the date of the experience significant in any way?     critical time in life

General geographic location of experience:  Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience:    

My fiance had unexpectedly worked very late and came home and fell asleep next to me in the bedroom.  I was asleep several hours after he arrived home and fell asleep next to me.  I suddenly awakened because I sensed there was a presence in the room.

Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience:    

No sadness and/or grief feelings

Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience:         Asleep

After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience:      

Mixed

Have you had multiple experiences?   No       Was this experience difficult to express in words? 

No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?           

Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

No

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:   

I could sense a presence in the room, and that the presence was moving in the room (pacing and circling the bed back and forth).  Further, I sensed it was a male presence, and not only that, but a paternal (father) presence, and then I sensed that the presence was not concerned about me, but about my fiance, so I deducted that the presence was my fiance's deceased father, not my deceased father.

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? 

The presence I sensed was outside of me.  It was clearly pacing the floor and circling the bed back and forth.  I sensed the presence was very worried and upset.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?          

n/a

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?          

No.  The house was completely quiet.

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?  

No.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?           

No

n/a

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?  

n/a

            Was anything communicated by the touch? 

n/a

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? 

No

Did you see the deceased?        

No

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            I did not see the deceased spirit - it was invisible.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       I saw nothing.

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       n/a

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            n/a

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?     

No

How long did the experience last?       

A good half an hour.  I sensed the presence in the bedroom for at least half-an hour.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

I was awakened from a deep sleep because I sensed a presence in the room.  So it abruptly awoke me when it came into the room.  After I woke my fiance lying next to me, the presence was gone.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

Yes

I sensed the presence was the father of my fiance and that he was very worried and upset.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? 

no

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          

I have only had several experiences in my entire life where I sensed/experienced after-death entities/spirits of deceased in my presence.  At the time I had this experience, I was attending college and working 2 part-time jobs.  I was quite mentally sound, on no medications and was very grounded in my life and not involved in any way with any occult activities, practices or other related hobbies.  I was a mother, a fiance, a student and a worker.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

I was wide awake when I experienced all of this.  I was jolted awake when the presence entered the room.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

I was trying to figure out who the presence was - who the deceased person was.  I was sensing - probing the presence - and "picked up" the feeling that it was a deceased male, then further "picked up" the feeling that it was a father, and then "picked up" that the presence wasn't concerned at all with me, but was worried and upset about my fiance.  I then concluded that it was my fiance's deceased father, and not my deceased father.  I was not frightened but it alarmed me that this deceased spirit -- and once I realized, it was my fiance's deceased father -- as to wondering what had made him so upset and worried that he would actually come into our bedroom and make his presence known.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

No

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

The best part was my actually first-hand experiencing this.  It validated my belief in the afterlife.  The worst part was that it gave me a sense of foreboding because of the high degree of worry and made me upset the presence manifested - it was a warning to me that my fiance was going to experience very bad things.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

No      

What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have?
             
Other belief   
The experience confirmed to me that although our dead relatives may die, that they might be able to actually come in contact with us in this life and to communicate with us, even if it is just by making their presence known to us.  Further, the experience validated to me that the deceased still have emotions.        

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No       Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  Yes            The experience gave me further first-hand experience that indeed, the deceased may be able to make their spiritual presence known and evident to us in this life by manifesting their presence to us.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            My experience was undeniably real.  I had no doubt as to what had just happened.  My fiance, after I told him about it, acted surprised, but I don't think he believed in the afterlife.

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     I told my fiance after I woke him up about the experience.  He was surprised but I don't think he believed in the afterlife.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       The spirit of man does not die.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

Almost drowned & afterwards, I felt a high degree of anger that I had NOT died.  It is because whatever I experienced when I almost died gave me a huge sense of peace.  I was angry when I found I hadn't died.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes