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Ellen K's ADC

Experience description:  

My twin sister and I were in bed asleep. It was the night of Uncle Pearl's funeral. Uncle Pearl came into our room.  We both saw him.  He didn't scare us at all and we both knew that he had died.  He told us to, "Take care of grandma for him" and then he left.   

Some people say my sister and I were dreaming, but how could we both dream about the same thing?  We were happy to see him and were weren't scared at all. 

Uncle Pearl was always thinking of others and grandma and him were very close.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No


Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:    He told my sister and I to take care of grandma for him.  We both heard him.

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  It was just like in real life when someone talks to you.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           It was exactly the same.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No.

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   No.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  No.

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

He looked just the same.  He looked concerned about grandma but he also looked happy.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Solid, just like real life.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       His whole body with clothes on of course!

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       He looked the same.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            Uncle Pearl was never unhealthy looking.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        It seemed like he left us way to soon. We didn't want him to go.  He was only there a minute or so.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         He was just there when we both woke up.  It left suddenly, too.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

Concerned for grandma, but happy to see us and happy to be going to Heaven.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  No.  He just wanted us to take care of grandma.  He would be like that normally.  He wouldn't have to worry about grandma.  Grandpa was very good to here.  He was just that type of person to worry about others.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           Both my sister and I woke up at the same time, saw Uncle Pearl the same, heard him say the same thing, and we both went back to sleep immediately after he left.  We didn't talk about this until the next day.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           We were so happy to see him.  We were both glad he trusted us to take care of grandma for him.  We knew we'd miss him but he seemed so happy and we both know we'll see him in Heaven someday so we were happy to stay here for awhile and be with grandma.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           No

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      There is no worst part.  I really enjoyed talking with him.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes                 Describe:      I haven't changed religious practices but I feel confident in the happiness of people that have gone on before me.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes     I became certain that people can contact loved ones and I anxiously wait for contact.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes     I've always believed in God, but this experience brought me closer to an understanding to death and I don't fear it at all.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

Yes, I have several people that I've talked to about contacting me or I'd contact them.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Yes People thought my sister and I were dreaming.  We verified our story with each other when we talked about it in the morning.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Confident about the experience, happiness.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           Yes

My twin sister and I both saw and talked with Uncle Pearl.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    Uncertain

I'm not sure.  I didn't have a special knowledge but I felt special because he trusted us to talk to and take care of grandma.

Did you become aware of future events?       Yes

I always thought of how we could treat grandma and take good care of her. We had always done this in the past anyway.

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         Uncertain

I've had several experiences like this but I don't think I'm psychic or have special gifts.

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     Uncertain

Not this time, but I have had that with other experiences.

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?           Yes

A background soft light, like a candle.

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes     My sister believes me because she experienced and heard the same thing. Others think my sister and I had the same dream because of stress and the loss we felt after the funeral.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       I've had this experience several times.  One time Jesus took me to Heaven to visit with him. It was beautiful. He told me to pick the flowers.  I didn't want to because I didn't want to take one to have it wilt and die. He encourage me to do this and when I picked one it grew back.  I didn't want to leave when he told me it was time.  He asked me why I was so upset about my son.  I told him because he could get killed in Iraq.  He told me that the worst thing that could happen would be his death. If I didn't want to leave, Kyle would feel the same and that he'd take good care of him and he'd wait for me.  I asked him to not let him suffer if something happened.  He agreed and I woke up in my bed.  I hadn't slept in several days form worry. After that experience, I accepted the fact he'd be in Iraq for a year and I could deal with it better.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         Yes 

When I had my son in the hospital, when I really worried about something, and after someone's death that I was close to.

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

I had a cesarean and during the night I woke up and tried to get my body up or to push the nurse button because I knew I needed help. I walked down the hall as a cloudy image to get the nurse but they couldn't see or her me.  I was trying to tell them I needed help. Then, I went to the corner of my room by the ceiling. I couldn't get out. Jesus told me he wanted me to stay on earth to take care of my son.  So, I went back to bed.  In real life the nurses came in and I was having a problem with blood pressure so they took care of me.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes