I had a dream, where my sister appeared to me, my other two sisters and my dad. We were all traveling to a family gathering, when she appeared to us in the car. We arrived at the house, although I didn't recognize who it belonged to.
Within the dream, I had the opportunity to ask her anything I wanted to, but it seemed as if she was fading (or having some problems 'staying with me'). I asked her if there is a heaven. She said yes, and that she couldn't wait to get there when she knew what it was like. It is amazing. I asked if she could see us all the time. She said she couldn't 'see' us visually, but that she has a constant awareness of what we are doing, and that she has her wonderful memories.
I told her that I love her, over and over. She said she knew that. We hugged lots as I told her this. I asked her details about the car accident. She said she felt no pain, answering firmly to reassure me because she knew we were all worried about that and she didn't want us to worry.
She left me briefly, and when I found her, she was sitting on the bottom of the stairs with a crowd of people I didn't recognize, and was holding a baby on her knee. I then awoke suddenly (at 1.30am).
sense an awareness or presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing,
feeling or smelling them ? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe: We had a conversation about how heaven is amazing and she is aware of what we are doing without visually 'seeing us', that she still has her memories, that she felt no pain before she died, and that she loves me and she knows I love her.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally, or outside of you, inside of you, or did you not hear a voice or sound but had a knowing of what was communicated? I heard her voice, but it's difficult to say where it originated.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar to the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Similar
How clearly did you hear the deceased? Very clearly.
Is there any possibility that what you heard was from any other source in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
Where and how were you touched? We hugged when I told her I love her.
Was the touch familiar? Unfamiliar in a way, as we rarely hugged while she was alive.
Was anything communicated by the touch? That she knew I loved her and that she loves me.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in your surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you see the deceased? Yes
Describe the appearance of the deceased: She appeared as she was just before she died. I can't remember exactly what she was wearing, but her hair was shoulder length and dyed reddish as it was before she died.
How clearly did the deceased appear? She appeared a little transparent as if she were fading a little - I felt as if I only had a short time with her before she had to go.
How much of the deceased did you see? All of her.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? Yes, she appeared 19, the age she was when she died.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? She appeared healthy - she sometimes wore glasses when she was alive and I don't think she was wearing then during the 'visit'.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in your surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you smell a distinct smell, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? It felt about ten minutes.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Quite sudden - it concluded with her sitting at the bottom of the stairs surrounded by people I did not know.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?
Describe: I felt all along that she loves me. At one point she was worried about us, as we were worried about whether she felt any pain after the accident.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? Yes, she told me that even though she 'knew' what we were doing at all times, she could not 'visually see' us. Heaven is amazing , and that you still have your memories.
felt no pain after the accident. I have no proof about any of these, but they
are things that I did not previously know.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience: Experience was definitely real
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was happy to be with her again.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
Describe: It is still early days, but when I'm feeling particularly low, if I think of the experience, it helps me through.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes
Describe: She told me that there is an afterlife/ a heaven and that it's amazing. She suggested that you don't get there straight away because 'she couldn't wait to get there' when she knew what it was like - you travel there.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes
Describe: I was asleep at the time.
Did you experience a separation of consciousness from your body? Uncertain
Describe: I suppose that this must have happened to an extent as it felt as if 'our spirits met'.
Did you see a light? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? Yes
Describe: People were gathered around her at the end of the visit, but I did not know them.
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience you did not have prior to the experience? Uncertain
I have been much more aware of the many 'coincidences' that occur in my every
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Uncertain
Describe: I've started to read spiritualist/psychic literature. Not sure what believe yet.
Has the experience affected your relationships? Daily life? Religious practices etc.? Career choices? It has made my Christian beliefs a lot more solid.
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes
They said that it was nice for me, and, if they knew her, comforting for them
too. Some have been prompted to share their experiences with me.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
What emotions/feelings did you experience following your experience? I was very upset straight afterwards, as I realized that she is no longer here, but then it has been a source of comfort since then.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Worst - the upset straight afterwards. Best - I know that she's OK and that there's a heaven. I could tell her I love her.
anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
I've kept a dream journal since then, recording any
dreams or other signs from my sister.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes
Describe: Made my belief in an afterlife more solid. Gained much from being with her again.
the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or
substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Describe: Made me think about aspects that I've not considered before - eg. her voice.
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire: No.