Elyse B's ADC
I am preparing to leave for work in the morning. Usually up and about about 6:30 am. Still in my bathrobe. In kitchen making coffee and breakfast.
The phone rings. I answer.
My mother's voice says 'How's my sweetheart?' This is her usual greeting to me when she calls.
Me: Mom?, (incredulous) You're on the Phone? (incredulous)
Mom: Yes, I only have a minute.
Me: You're on the Phone? Where are you?
Mom: It's like a big waiting room, like the doctor's office. But huge, There are thousands of people here.
Me: You're on the Phone? (incredulous)
Mom: yes, you can use the phone but you have to wait in line, There are many people waiting to use the phone.
Me: Are you OK?
Mom: yes, I just wanted to let you know that everything is OK, I am fine. I love you sweetheart
Me: I love you too, I miss you.
Mom: I have to hang up, people are waiting.
The images that formed in my mind as we were speaking-
vast hall, everything white. rows of leather chairs with metal arms. Filled with people all in light colored gowns. People milling about, waiting. A line waiting to use a black payphone, but you didn't need coins.
She never visited again. A friend had told me that she would visit and she would be well, not young but in her prime. That is how she sounded. It was her voice no question. The phone was her favorite. She was a social butterfly. Nick-named 'The Queen of Hearts' by her vast body of friends. Those words are on her grave marker. I was euphoric for days after her visit. All worry and grief disappeared after her call. I would miss her on Sunday Mornings when she would call about 9am
and say 'how's my sweetheart?'
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: her voice as described in my account
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? voice over the phone
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? definitely her voice
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no. I picked up the phone and was taking into it. Her voice came from the phone
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? no
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
an image formed in my mind. My mother with blond hair, makeup. Light colored clothing
How clearly did the deceased appear? clear
How much of the deceased did you see? all
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? middleaged not elderly as she was
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? vibrantly alive
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no. The images were in my mind, her voice was on the phone
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? 1 minute
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? the phone rang and she was there. She terminated the call saying she had to go
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? yes, Said the place was like a huge waiting room with thousands of people
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: oit was her voice and her favorite method of communication. It seemed a very real way for her to communicate
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: euphoric and relieved (that she was OK)
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
no more grieving. I still missed her, especially her calls (she lived in Boston)
What was the best and worst part of your experience? That we haven't talked again. The best is that we talked and I was able to confirm that she is OK. I was not here when she passed. I was planning a visit in about two weeks and my brother and I decided not to tell her so it could be a surprise.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No