I was standing in my kitchen across the room from the back door. It was dark outside and a car pulled up into my driveway, the lights shone into the window.

The back door opened and my Brother-in-law (living) stepped in the kitchen. He looked at me and said, 'I've brought sis to say goodbye'

He stepped aside as sis walked through the door, her beaming smile directly to me, she walked straight over and we hugged so tightly. I could feel her.

I did not feel sad and I knew she had passed. I just savored every second of the hug. The love I felt was incredible and soothing. I knew she was ok.

We pulled apart, her smile and eyes shone, she was so healthy. as she walked back to the door she continually looked back, smiling and waved as she left the house.

The car started up in the dark (I couldn't see the car, only the car lights) and the car left the driveway. Not one word was said..

I woke next morning and felt so peaceful and ready to face the world again, the dream was so real I didn't question if it really happened. But I did wonder who would believe me.

I grieved badly for my sis, I figured people would say it was 'wishful thinking' and I live with a bunch of skeptics.

I called my brother in law and told him my 'dream' as he was in it too. He said he had dreamed of sis in the past but not the same dream.

I told my mother who got really upset so I decided to not mention it again.. until now..

I have analyzed the 'dream' & read up on visitation dreams since to prove to myself it wasn't just a dream, it is still as vivid as it was 4 years ago.

It was the only 'dream' I have ever had of her.

At the time of her passing I was not by her side, I took her passing badly.

I believe she came back so we could say goodbye properly and for her to say 'I'm ok... stop grieving & get on with life' Which is something in life that she surely would have done.

Was this experience difficult to express in words? No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?          No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?       Yes

          Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:          Very clearly my brother in law (living)

          Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?          Externally

          Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No

          Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?       No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?       Yes

We hugged

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Familiar

          Was anything communicated by the touch? Love

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No

Did you see the deceased?       Yes

Sis was healthy and happy

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Solid

            How much of the deceased did you see?       All

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?   Same age

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?           Very Healthy

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

How long did the experience last?      A few minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?      sudden, there was a beginning, middle and end. All in 'real time' clear and focused

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          Yes

Sis was happy, calm, relaxed. it felt normal.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?          No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   I have never had a 'dream' before or since quite like it. It felt normal, completely real and true.

          Was the experience dream like in any way?  No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:  I felt at ease. Totally comforted in her presence and my heart lifted when we hugged. I also knew she wouldn't be back again. It was to say goodbye. But I knew I'd see her again some day & I felt ok about that.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes

I will always grieve for my sister. But the experience eased my pain, helped me to move along to life without her.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?          Seeing & being with sis & that hug! There was no worse part.. even when she left I didn't feel sad.. (I guess I would have liked longer time with her on hindsight.. but it seemed the right amount of time when it happened)

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Uncertain                 Describe:     Not so much my life.. but my attitude has certainly changed. Either it was from the experience or the loss of sis, I'm not sure. I am stronger than I was, I know I don't walk alone. I'm more assertive yet kinder. I'm not afraid anymore of anything or anyone. There is something bigger than us & although I'm not ready to go there just yet... I am not scared of going there..

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes    I accepted my parents passing's a little easier, knowing it is not the end.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?          No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?          Peace, calm and feeling fully awake and alive.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?         No

Did you become aware of future events?      No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?  No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?   Yes

Brother in law (living)

Did you see a light?        Yes

Car headlights at the beginning and end

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?     No

Have you shared this experience with others?       Yes    Brother in law & mother

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?       No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?          No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?    No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                     Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.       None