Jacqueline J's ADC

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Experience description:  

My father was talking about suicide after my mom passed and my husband and I lived 200 miles away from him.  We were worried about my dad and trying to get job transfers to Buffalo to be with him.  He was stating that he was going to take all my mother's medication that was in his house and then he would be with her.  My husband and I went and took all the medication and disposed of it so he couldn't take it.  Then he went on a drinking binge and would even pass out in the car in the parking lot of bars or he'd be out until all hours of the night drinking. 

I went to put an application for a job transfer into the closest institution by my dad.  The head of the institution was a very cold, ignorant, and uncaring woman.  I explained my situation and that I had to get back to this area to help my father.  The woman told me that they were not hiring at this time, the application would be kept on file, even if they call me for an interview, it doesn't mean they will hire me.  She stated "It depends on if the interviewers like you or not." Then showed me out of her office.  I went home and cried. 

About a week later, my mom came to me in a dream and told me to write a letter to Albany and I would get my transfer.  I woke up excited and a bit confused because I had no idea of who to send a letter to in Albany. I told my husband about the dream and asked him what he thought, he got the phone book out and looked up an address in Albany for the Dept. of Mental Health and I wrote to them.  The letter was very emotional and I asked whoever received it to please contact me by phone or letter to let me know either way, if they could help me or not.  The man who received it called me on the phone and said that my letter was very touching and that he called the woman at the institution whom I gave my application to and that they were going to be hiring soon and I would be hearing from her.  A few weeks later she called and told me that they wanted me to come in for an interview.  I went to the interview and the two people who were interviewing me told me that I had the job.  I thank my mom so much for her help, I never would have thought to write a letter to Albany.  My dad is doing much better now and even has a girlfriend!

My mom also helped me out another time after I transferred to Buffalo and was living with my dad.  My dad was very sick and the doctor told me if his temperature went up to a certain point or if he had trouble breathing, to get him into the emergency room right away.  My dad thought he had a high fever and felt really hot and wanted me to take his temperature.  I looked all over for the thermometer and couldn't find it. Nobody had used it since my mom passed. My dad even got up as sick as he was and helped me look for it.  We couldn't find it and dad went back to bed, I had been looking for about a half an hour by now.  I was almost in tears and worried about dad, I went back in the bathroom to check the medicine cabinet once more.  While in there, I said "Ok mom, where is it?"  As soon as I asked this, I heard mom's voice in my head saying "It's in the box on the chair in the kitchen."  There were four chairs at my dad's kitchen table, but one was against the outer wall by the window and the curtains hung over the top part of the back of the chair so you didn't see it.  The chair was pushed in and on it, under the table, was a box that my mom kept some medication and prayer cards in.  The thermometer was in there also! Thanks again mom!

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  In the dream, it came from mom. She seemed very real.  When I asked her where the thermometer was, the voice was in my head, but it was her voice.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           It was her voice.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

My mom appeared exactly how she was when she was alive. We were at her house and having a conversation about what to do with some of her things and she also told me to write a letter to Albany.  Before my mom passed, she sat me down and did tell me what to do with certain possessions of hers, so this just seemed like something she would do. The dream seemed so real.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            She appeared solid in my dream.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       All of her

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       yes, she appeared to be the age she was when she died

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            She seemed to be about as healthy as she was when she sat me down and told me what to do with her things when she was alive.  She didn't seem any better or worse.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           I was dreaming, I don't think so.  In the dream we were at her house, when I had the dream, I was at my house.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        I'm not sure, I was dreaming

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         don't know

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

She seemed in a cheerful mood, but she always tried to stay that way, she never let us see her cry, and she never felt sorry for herself.  She worried more about how we were going to feel when she passed.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  Yes, it was very helpful.  I didn't know if I wrote to Albany that some compassionate man there would help me to get transferred to Buffalo to help my father.  I had just about given up on getting transferred until I had the dream.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          I view it as real because I am living back in the Buffalo area, I got my transfer.  I believed my mom in the dream and did what she told me, and here I am.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Uncertain

It seemed more real than like a dream, but it was a dream

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I was excited (happy) that I saw my mom and that there may be a way to get transferred, but I was confused because I had no idea who to send the letter to.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

I felt that my mom was ok and still there to help from the other side when I needed her most.  It made me feel good.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Best was seeing my mom and receiving info on how to transfer, there wasn't a worse part (The worst part was losing my mom.)

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes

            Describe:      I transferred in my job and my religious beliefs have broadened

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes

I am more open to the idea of afterlife and I am currently reading everything I can find on the subject and going to mediums to try to talk to mom

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Elated and very thankful

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes, they looked at me like I had a third eyeball in the middle of my forehead, they think I'm nuts

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   Yes

I can't remember the correct spelling of the names but I'll take a shot at it: Bill and Judy Guggenheim (the authors of "Hello From Heaven" have a website, I do not know the http code.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes