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Experience description:
 

I was staying with my grandmother only months following my grandfather's death.  I was staying the summer.  My dad gave me a job to put linoleum on the floor in my grandmothers upstairs hallway.  For this, I would earn an allowance.  It was also good for me to stay with grandma at this time. 

One night, I was sleeping in the bedroom upstairs when I awoke because I heard the bedroom door open.  I thought it was one of my grandma's cats coming in to be with me.  I couldn't see well, but as I was peering to see something small (like a cat) coming towards the bed, I instead got the feeling that there was a person in the room with me.  I stood up a little afraid but as I neared, a figure appeared before me and it was my grandfather.  I remember not being afraid but happy.  I felt quite awake and was definitely standing.  I asked him what he was doing here.  He told me that he just came to say goodbye to me and to tell me that he was very happy with the job I was doing to the floor in the hallway. 

I was a little embarrassed so changed the subject and told him that the Blue Jays (baseball team we used to listen to together) were actually not doing too bad.  He told me that that didn't matter.  He said that what mattered to him was taking care of grandma and the house.  He said he was proud of me.  Then he said he had to go.  I asked why and added that I didn't want him to.  He said that he could only come for a short visit and that it was time to go.  I told him that I missed him and he said he knew.  He said goodbye and as he passed through the door heading out into the hallway, he vanished.  I wanted to wake grandma up and tell her but knew I would commit this memory and tell her early next morning.  I did.


Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:   see above (I'm not sure i understand this question)

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  The voice was just like talking to someone standing in front of me.  It was audible and external.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           I don't remember any dissimilarity.  It was as if he were still alive.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No, absolutely not.

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   None.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

His appearance I would describe as a recent one (just before death) but before his illness.  He looked healthy, but still aged.

           
How clearly did the deceased appear?            Very solid!

           
How much of the deceased did you see?       All.

           
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       Yes, the age he died except for the last month when we was in a coma.

           
How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            He was healthy.  No signs of disease or illness.

           
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        Under 5 minutes.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         The beginning and end were both gradual.  (see story)

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Uncertain

When my grandfather said that the Blue Jays didn't really matter, I sensed a mild but light-hearted irritation that you might have with a child who says something inane.  I also sensed his need to say what he did and that he was under a time constraint.  He was very direct, like someone might be if limited in time.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  No.  Other than he was happy with me.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          It was too real.  I was standing up and felt very functional.  I was not asleep, I feel.  Also, this did not "feel" like a dream.  Way too vivid.  I was awake for a long time afterwards, too.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           When I didn't know who was in my room, I was scared.  When I saw it was granddad I was surprised at first, then happy to see him.  I was sad upon his departure but still happy I got the chance to see him albeit briefly.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Uncertain

I never really got to say goodbye to him because his demise happened too quickly.  But I really can say that I was not thinking about it or terribly depressed because of it.  That's just the way it happened (his death).  I was not thinking about him or upset unduly.  So I'm not sure about there being any emotional healing.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      The worst was not knowing who was in my room.  The best was him knowing that I was with grandma and in his house working on the floor.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Uncertain

           
Describe:      Yes and No.  Not specifically but I think I am more open minded.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

I fear death less.  Not zero, but less.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

My grandmother and I made such a pact AFTER I told her about my experience with my granddad (story above).  My granddad and I never made this pact, no.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Happy.  Lucky.  Fortunate.  Peaceful.

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         Yes

When my grandmother died years later...I have spoken to her twice now (in the past year).

Did you see a light?           Uncertain

There was at first, a shadow of my grandfather which had to be cast by a light but I was not certain of the source.

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes

Only close family and friends.  They know me and believe me.  My mom had an after death experience with Granddad too.  Hers was by telephone the moment he passed!

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes

Experience 677

I was sleeping in bed and I heard my name being called.  I finally answered and it was my grandmother.  I asked her what she was doing.  She said visiting and she asked if I had forgotten our pact.  I honestly had! She reminded me of it and said that she had come once before and asked if I remembered.  I said I did not and she was not surprised.  I told her I missed he and she said that she knew.  I asked her if she was able to keep track of the family and she said yes.  I asked her what heaven was like and she said it was "hot".  I must have had quite the shocked look (thinking...isn't that the other place???) but grandma laughed and interjected, saying that what she meant was that in heaven, you can be anywhere and at any time you want to be.  She said that there was no hell or at least not in the conventional way that we are often taught.  It just so happens that yesterday for her was a hot summer day and she never cared much for the heat.  But she said that today was a very lovely spring day. 

I asked her if she had tried to contact my mom (her and mom were close) and she said yes.  She twice had contacted her.  I asked if it was by telephone and she said yes. (they were always on the phone together when she was alive!)  She told me that in heaven, you can visit people but sometimes it's hard to make contact.  She told me that heaven was wonderful.  She then said that she had to go and I told her again that she was missed.  She said again that she knew.  I asked if she knew everything...like even what we were all thinking at any given time.  She said no, it doesn't work like that.  But she said that she is always near.  She said goodbye and so did I.

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            Yes


Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  More like all around me.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           It was her voice as it was just before she passed away.  She even had a cough in her laugh.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No.

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   No.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        Less than 5 minutes.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         gradual in the beginning.  I heard my name being called I think, 3 times and it got louder and more clearer each time before I comprehended or reacted to respond.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Uncertain

I believe that she was happy she was able to make contact.  I felt that there was a triumphant feeling.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  She said that she contacted my mom on two occasions previously.  One (at least) by telephone.  When I confronted my mom about this, she said that there was a telephone call on our call display from grandmas house on morning that she missed.  Grandmas phone had been disconnected for some time.  That was strange.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          This didn't feel like a dream.  It was very interactive.  Like Q and A.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Uncertain

My eyes were closed during this.  I opened after it was over.  But it was not like my regular dreams.  And there was no visual in this.  That's a first from what I recall of any other dreams.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           Happy.  Serene.  Curious.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           No

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      best was meeting grandma and knowing she is always close.  worst part was saying goodbye again.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Uncertain

            Describe:      I'm still working this one out!!!

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

I wasn't sure about a heaven.  I'm more open minded now.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes

She said that hell does not exist in the way that we are taught (ie fire, brimstone, devils, forever torment...etc)

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

My grandmother and I made such a pact when I was about 14 years old.  I had forgotten about it until she came to me in this story and reminded me.  Yes, the deceased (my grandma) from the above story was the one I had the pact with.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Uncertain

My grandma said that she had contacted my mom by telephone.  My mom recalls seeing grandma's number on her call display when it should not have been there (long after he phone was disconnected).  My mom would not lie to me about this.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Happy.  Lucky.  Proud.

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes

Only a few close family and friends.  They believed, except for one friend.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    question #5 is a hard one to answer.  Maybe you could reword it?

Experience 678

I was asleep and I heard my name being called.  It was grandma.  I said, Grandma...you're back!  She answered and said hello and asked how I was.  Then she said that she was visiting and thought she'd come by.  She said that she brought someone along who wants to say hi.  I was very curious.  I said okay.  The next voice i heard was my mother's!  But she is still alive so I was very confused.  I said hi but was a little more than worried and my grandmother picked up on it.  She said that her and mom were just talking and since my grandma had already contacted me successfully before - they thought why not pay me a visit. 

My grandma said that my mom is not in any imminent danger nor will she die soon.  Grandma said that one day sometime way down the road, like everyone...mom will pass too.  It was during that day in the future that mom died and met grandma in heaven and soon after, decided to visit me.  They chose me in this year (means they can pick at what point in my life to say hello).  My mom was quiet and I felt she was a little uncomfortable now for fear that she was scaring me or confusing me. 

At this point, my grandma said to me that someone else has "just arrived" (meaning in heaven) and asked if I wanted to say hello.  I said okay and the next voice was that of my younger brother Rob.  (also alive currently).  I asked Rob what was going on.  He explained to me that in heaven, time is not relevant like here on earth.  He said that you can die and your family can arrive within moments although years can pass on earth in that same timeframe.  He also said that you can visit someone and you can go back in time at any time to see them. 

He said that you cannot go forward though, nor can you visit yourself in the past and make contact.  And I forget the reasons why but when he told me during this talk, it all made perfect sense then.  But I have forgotten now.  (i wish i wrote it all down right away and will so next time...if there is a next time).  But the main gist was that time is really something that is specific to us here on earth.  We're stuck in it.  They are not.  I asked why contact me at this time and not later.  My grandma interjected and said that I am for several reasons, easier to contact at this time. 

She wasn't positive but said that it could be because I am "receptive"  meaning open minded enough or more likely...I was "tuned in" like a radio station to the right frequency.  This is all I remember now but the conversation was longer before I had to say goodbye to everyone.  I do remember that I wasn't scared or confused following.  I was serene and completely knowledgeable that what was said to me made a lot of sense.  No one was in immediate peril or anything.  This was just a fun visit form family to me while they had the opportunity but it occurred from a point in their future.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  Yes

The events and the fact that two of the three characters are alive today.  The tenses with respect to time get confusing, too.

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  all around but inside my head.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           same.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        about 5 minutes.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         gradual in the beginning as i heard my name being called.  the end was more abrupt i think.  like ending a telephone call.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

I could understand my mom's hesitation.  Also my grandma's and brother's awe.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  Taught me about time.  But i forgot so much now.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          like last time, this was not "dreamlike" of what i experience in other dreams.  it was so interactive and i felt as though i were being educated with info i did not have prior to going to sleep.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Uncertain

my eyes were closed, so that is dreamlike.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           happy, confused, understanding.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      best was the experience and the knowledge gained.  worst is forgetting so much since.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

further open mindedness

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes, the possibilities of heaven.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

my grandmother and i made this exact pact when i was 14 yrs old.  she was in this dream and initiated contact with me in a previous dream that i narrated to you already in a previous form.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            lucky.  happy.  inspired.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   Yes

It was being taught to me.  And I was understanding the concepts.  But i have lost the info now.

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes, happy, confused.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes