James M's ADC
years after my grandmother died, I had a dream where she, without speaking,
definitely conveyed that she was fine - all was OK. The strange part about my
dream, though, was the location. I was sitting on something, a stool perhaps,
in a kitchen from around 1905. My grandmother was wearing her hair up like she
did in those old photos from the turn of the century, with a long white dress
on. She was young. She was standing with her back to me as she was ironing
something. There was a rose on the table next to her - laid out, not in a
vase. She slowly turned her head to acknowledge me behind her - I could see
only the right side of her face, she never turned completely around. She had
slight smile, and looked very relaxed. I knew she meant to say, "I'm OK, don't
worry about me." Then it ended. I woke up. I remember it as vividly now as
when it happened 26 years ago. The funny thing is - I told my mother about this
some time later, and described the kitchen, down to the last detail (where the
stove was, what it looked like, etc.). She was shocked because it was the
kitchen in the house where my grandmother grew up on a farm back in Ohio at the
turn of the century. I have never physically been to this house.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
My grandmother was wearing her hair up like she did in those old photos from the turn of the century, with a long white dress on. She was young. She was standing with her back to me as she was ironing something.
How clearly did the deceased appear? Solid and very vivid.
How much of the deceased did you see? Entire length of her dress, and her head and hair in detail.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? No, she was nearly 89 when she died, and she appeared as she did in photos when she was around 20 years old.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? Very healthy. Normal.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? It was a dream - can't really say. It seemed like it was fairly short.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? It phased in gradually, but ended quickly.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Calm, serene, happy, not worried about anything.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: This was about 26 years ago, and I usually don't remember my dreams. This is as vivid in my memory today as when it happened.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes
This was like a dream, but more constant and vivid.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: No emotions - only relief that my grandmother was OK.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes I felt closure with her death.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? No worst or best - just a nice experience.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
emotions did you feel during the experience?
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? Uncertain
There was absolutely no sense of time there.
Did you see a light? Uncertain The room in the dream scene was bathed in a very warm, welcoming light.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes My Mother - she was happy about it. She had a similar dream about HER grandmother several decades before and forgot about it until I brought up my experience.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. None.