Jan F's ADC
Most significant. First, during my father's viewing, I saw my father standing off to the side of his coffin - he was vibrant, smiling, and observing the interactions of the 200+ people that attended. Second and on, usually driving my truck. I have a sense of not being alone and look in my rear view mirror and "saw" my father sitting behind me and leaning forward and we talk. Usually me saying, "hi, dad." Then he would respond and ask how I was doing and we'd chat for a few minutes and then he would be gone. Several times while tending to the horses, I heard my father laughing. His voice would come from the corral where a mare and foal were located. I would then feel a sense of him being there. Often heard his laughter. Never in my home or at work. A couple of weeks prior to my son's wedding, my father appeared in the truck and I told him I knew he would be present and, because my son told me he wished my father could have attended his wedding, I asked him to give my son a sign so he knew my father was there. The day prior to my son's wedding, we were sitting in his den (me, my son and his now wife) and my son rested his head on the pillow I had brought with me from home. He lifted his head and then bent down and smelled the pillow and stated, "this smells like poppa." My father had never used the pillow or the pillow case. I later told my daughter-in-law what I had asked of my father but did not tell my son because he is extremely skeptic. Eventually, she told my son what I had requested of my father and my son was visibly shaken but rationlized it as his imagination.
father's appearances became less frequent after the wedding for about six months
there were none at all. Now they are infrequent but still occur and my mother
is with him in most occurrences but she doesn't communicate.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: Father's voice and laughter
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? outside of me
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? similar
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? no
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
looked like my father in his 70's (he died at age 85)
How clearly did the deceased appear? somewhat transparent
How much of the deceased did you see? head and upper torso - he was "sitting" in my truck's back seat
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? No; about 10 years younger
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? healthy
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? It's been three years since my father past and I still have experiences but are less frequent than earlier.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? sudden. After my son's wedding, one year after my father died, the experiences disappeared for about six months then resumed but less frequently
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes calm, happy
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? no
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I am sane; healthy mentally; when I've wanted him to appear because I missed him, my father did not appear then nor + or - weeks surrounding sadness. I was not feeling sadness those times he did appear.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Stayed relaxed, enjoyed "seeing" my dad.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? No
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Best - feeling my father
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Uncertain Maybe a little more convinced that there is life after death.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Stayed relaxed.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
One occurrence with Frank, father; the day prior to my son's wedding one year after father passed away. My son rested his head on pillow and stated it smelled like "poppa." Several weeks prior, I had asked my father to reveal himself to my son so son could know Frank was present for wedding.
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Certain people who know me well - accepted experiences; my son - very grounded in tangibility, discounts it.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? no
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
Participated in Native American sweatlodge - saw "visions"
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes