Jane's Granddaughter's ADC
My grand daughter was adopted from Korea. She was only 6 months old when she arrived here. She was very close to her daddy (my son)The family broke up when she was about 4 1/2 years old. However, she remained her daddy's little girl, always.
She came to spend the weekend with us, her grandparents. She told me she had seen her daddy........ and I asked her if it was in a dream....... and she was a little confused. She wasn't sure. But, she was very animated about it.... she drug her grandpa and me into our bedroom and closed the door because she didn't want her brothers to hear what she told us.
She said her daddy came to her and he told her........ "All there is ..... is love Rebecca. It's the only thing that really matters in the whole world"......
She was convinced he had appeared to her and told her that.
As she spoke she made a big circle with her arms and showed us what her daddy did.
Her mother made light of it and told her it was just a dream. Maybe it was, I don't know.......but to her, a little child........ it was very real.
She doesn't remember it
now........ three years later. But shortly after that experience, she would
dream of her daddy and she always told me he's ok.
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience: Moderately severe sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience: Slightly drowsy
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences? Yes I don't know, but I still have them occasionally. But, this experience happened to my grand daughter.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Not for Rebecca..... she was much too young to filter out what had happened to her or to understand that people would not understand it. She had no idea her mother would deny the realness of it.
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I don't know if she actually "heard" him say that, or if it was transmitted to her mind by her daddy. She was too young to ask those questions at the time.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Uncertain
Did you see the deceased? Yes she saw him......... he "came to visit" her.
How clearly did the deceased appear? apparently he was clear enough to leave no doubt in her mind that he was there.
How much of the deceased did you see? N/A
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? N/A
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? He was healthy and ok. He told her to tell me. She actually had another dream where he came to her and told her to tell grandma.... (me) that he was ok and that he loved me and that I shouldn't cry.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? I don't know, but it was brief....
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? I don't know.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Rebecca said he was happy.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? He told her that in all the world, love was all that really mattered.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: Rebecca, at six years of age, actually her father passed three months before her sixth birthday..... she had no idea whether it was not supposed to be real. So, she believed.
Her mother became angry when we asked her to tell us more and denied that it ever happened.
Rebecca told us later
that her mother told her not to tell people that she saw her daddy because it
was just a dream. Now, she believes that also.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Uncertain
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I'm speaking for Rebecca because she was so happy to have seen her father and to know he was ok.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Uncertain
I believe her mother took the healing from that experience away from her and turned it into a negative thing.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? best part was knowing my son came back to visit his beloved child. Worst part was having her mother take away that visit and turn it into a dream.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have?
Sacred I believe her daddy came to her to ease her
sorrow, and later when he came to her and told her to tell me that he was ok and
not to cry.... I think he was trying to help me.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes I think now that I had always believed. I've had my own share of experiences since I lost my son......... and some of them have been extremely clear and very healing.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? She couldn't wait to tell us, but never before had this subject ever come up. It never crossed our minds before her daddy passed to discuss life after death with a five - six year old child.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
She's had other "visits" from her father, but believes them to be simply dreams now that she's been told that it's impossible for him to really be there.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? Rebecca did say he was shining.......but I don't know if that answers your question or not.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
N0 comment We shared it with each other and with family members, but most of them also believe she was dreaming so we dropped it totally.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? no
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? I've had several, but this one that his daughter had, was so beautiful and it happened to a little girl who had never even heard of such things before.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
It made it difficult to explain that it happened to my little grand daughter, not to me.
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. There could be an allowance made if the experience happened to someone else.