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Janet O's ADC

Experience description:  

When I got out of the tub, there was steam on the mirror.  The first night, I noticed what looked like words.  There was the word Hi! and then mine and my husband's names:  Janet & Frank.  Down below about a foot, but still on the mirror was written the following:  L U all,  Sue.  If came to mind that L U meant love you. 

The next night, I took another bubble bath.  I enjoy bubble baths because they relax me. When I got out of the tub, I looked at the steamed mirror to see if anything appeared.  It did.  There were two palm trees; in between the palm trees was the word Hi. Below the trees, two little birds were on the ground. One of the birds had a long, thin beak and instantly the words "down under" popped into my head, since I thought the long beaked bird looked lie a kiwi bird in Australia.  Then the image of a bridge appeared to the left of the tropical scene.   

I was thinking that the scene was in Hawaii.  Sue liked to go to Hawaii.  Then I thought maybe the Hi stood for Hawaii.  Then it occurred to me that it was paradise.  I  thought Sue was telling me that she is in paradise.  I couldn't figure out the bridge at all.  It was a bridge that looked just like the bridge in Monet's water lilies painting, which I have visited in France.  Then it hit me that the bridge represented Sue crossing over to the other side. 

These experiences in waking life, are much like the dreams I have where events and objects symbolize other meanings. 

I have not been afraid when these things have happened.  I have been very curious and astonished.  I have particularly been surprised, since Sue and I were not close.  But, I did find myself being quite sad and wanting to support my brother through this, even though he and I have been at odds through the years. 

I have also been surprised, since I have never had any overt experiences like this in waking life.  I have only had signs from my best friend who died and of course dreams.  Yesterday, I smelled the flowers from her funeral in one particular room of the house.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No comment

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  No

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  No

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No comment

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?           Yes

            Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?     Funeral flowers

            Was anything communicated by the smell?   It was only in one spot in one of our bedrooms.  I did not know of any communication by the smell.

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?        No

How long did the experience last?        The mirror experience lasted two or three minutes.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         Gradual - I didn't see all of the words and images instantaneously.  I had to look around the mirror and study it.  The words and images gradually came into view.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

Very good mood.  Upbeat.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           I saw the words; I saw the images.  They were distinct, not just vague or hazy images.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I was very surprised.  I was shocked that it was happening.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

I felt like Sue appreciated the fact that I cared about her and her family, even though we had been somewhat antagonistic towards each other.  I felt more loving and accepting of her.  I also feel that way towards my brother now.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Best part:  Reconciliation with relatives.  Worst part:  Struggling to see the images; I had to look at the mirror at different angles to get the whole picture.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No      

What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have?                  
Other belief   
I'm just astonished by it.  I waver in my belief of life after death, god, etc.  I still don't know what it is of course, but I liked having the experience.  I have long been a vivid dreamer.  I have had dreams that have foretold things and revealed things to me.  I enjoy the experience of being psychically connected and I hope it continues.  I am also happy for how it helped me discover grace and love towards Sue and Steve.    

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   Yes     Changed attitude towards Steve and Sue.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            No       I think that it makes me feel that there is something going on beyond life; what it is, I still do not know.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

I've asked my father, when he dies to contact me.  He is now 95.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Surprise; denial for a while.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?           No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?      Yes     My husband seemed shocked and said it must have been an apparition.  My daughter was somewhat frightened.  Neither of them dismissed it.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       no

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

Flying in my dreams where I feel like my spirit leaves my body.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes