It all starts out with how I wake up for work on Saturdays..... every Friday night for the past five years since I have had my cell phone. I set the alarm clock on the cell for 6:01 am. I work every Saturday and it has been a superstition of mine to set it on an odd number. (6:01 or 10:31 etc.)
Earlier that night when I was rocking my son to sleep I sang a song about my brother who was killed in a car accident weeks earlier. I hummed a random tune and sang words like "uncle jay, uncle jay let us know that you're okay, we miss you and love you and please come visit us anytime you want." I also sang about how great of a brother and daddy and husband and uncle he was all the while patting my little baby's back. My son fell fast asleep and I went to bed shortly after, since I had a early morning ahead of me.
During our sleep, Dan and I awoke to Jayce crying (he had slept through the night since he was 9 weeks old and rarely ever woke in the middle of the night) Dan jumped out of bed and went to comfort Jayce in the next room and I leaned over to check my cell phone to see what time it was. It was 2:33 am. Dan couldn't comfort Jayce and I went in the room to see what I could do. A few pats on the back and both Dan and I were back to our warm bed.
Just as we laid our heads down on the pillow and talking about Jayce my alarm clock started to go off. On my cell phone it says to press snooze so I knew for sure it was my alarm going off. I thought that was funny since I just looked at the phone at 2:33 when jayce cried. I asked dan to check his cell phone to see if it was really 6:01 am. Our phones both said 2:40 am. My phone has never done this before in it's five years as my alarm clock, PLUS IT WAS STILL SET FOR 6:01 AM!! I laid back down and thought to myself " On Jay's police report the accident was documented occurring at 1440, which is 2:40 pm. I asked very quietly to Dan, "Do you think that was Jay?" Dan replied back "there is no doubt in my mind that it wasn't. I felt kind of funny for thinking that it could be Jay. But I just felt so strongly that it was him...I just knew it deep down inside. I guess Dan did too.
this all together: My uncle (who Jay worked for )checked Jay's cell phone after
the accident and after my experience and the last call Jay made while on his way
home to be with his family was to his home at 2:33pm lasting 19 seconds. So not
only do I believe jay was answering me back from the song I sang to my son
earlier that evening, he also visited Jayce at 2:33 am. I do have other signs
that he is okay but this one just stands out and made me feel so great.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
How long did the experience last? 7 minutes, after i figured out what the times I looked at my cell phone clock meant.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? The end one was sudden because my alarm was not set for 2:40 am----it was still set for 6:01 am even though it did go off at 2:40. The 2:33 am time (when my son awoke crying) didn't mean much to me until later when I found out that is when jay tried calling his wife at his home.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Uncertain
I just felt very peaceful and lucky to have him answer me back.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? I did not know at the time that his last phone call was at 2:33 pm to his home until weeks after I had the experience and that it had significance when jayce woke up crying. I guess I should have really paid attention to the signs he was giving me. The time of his accident/death (he died instantly) was marked at 2:40 pm (when my alarm went off) so i should have really thought more about why I looked at the clock at 2:33 am.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: Because I had asked Jay to visit us anytime he wanted and to give me a sign that he is okay all the while holding my son. I believe Jayce woke up at 2:33 am (jay's last phone call) and my alarm clock went off at 2:40 am (time of accident/death). jay knew that I would connect the alarm clock time( I studied that police report up and down because I didn't believe Jay was gone) with Jay and know that he visited and is okay. Dan witnessed the whole thing as well.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
Just that he actually answered me in a way I would catch on.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes
I am becoming more spiritual and more open to God.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes
That there is really life after death and they are happier in Heaven. I have always paid attention to signs about my life and this just confirms to pay close attention to the signs thrown out there for us to read.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? I wanted to tell my whole family right away in the middle of the night. Dan and I were in disbelief and we talked about it for awhile before going back to sleep
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
My boyfriend, Dan, witnessed whole thing and even checked his cell phone to see what time it was.
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes
people who have never lost a close loved one don't seem to get it, but my whole family and understands and feel comfort.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? When I was 8 or 9 I had a dream my oldest brother, Ryan, died. I saw him being wheeled away in his coffin. Since that dream I have feared that one of my brothers was going to die but not ryan and not Jay. It was my youngest brother I thought was going to die and never once did I have that thought about Jay. I am 23years old and I have prayed obsessively about all my brothers safety and for the Lord to never take them away from me. i begged Him almost every night and once jay died i feel a relief that i don't have that severe pressure in my thoughts anymore. I also fell asleep crying one night in high school because I had a thought, not a dream that I was standing in a church saying a speech about one of my brothers. I didn't know what brother I was talking about , I just knew. Then when jay died, i asked to speak at his service. When i was preparing the speech, i couldn't think of a word to describe him and once the word came to me, at that exact moment I remembered the night in high school that I fell asleep crying. never did I remember that night until the day i wrote it for jay.. I told my mom that day that i had all ready written this speech. Could it be possible that I knew this was going to happen?
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes