Jeff L's ADC
My sister passed away after a brief battle with cancer when I was 18 years old. She was 26 years old. My mother has been wheelchair bound since I was about 2 years old, so my sister (one of three siblings) was very much a surrogate mother to me. At the time of her death I was a young sailor, fresh out of school and about to depart on my first cruise to the Mediterranean in just over two weeks. Her death devastated me in way nothing has since. I've since lost my grandparents and my Dad, but losing her at such a young age was quite a blow. I was stationed in Virginia, and I was not able to make it back in time to say goodbye. She tried to wait, even mistaking a cousin for me. That part, her trying to hold on and wait, broke my heart even more. I tried, but I wasn't able to, so I learned of her death while in the airport awaiting a flight home.
After we buried her we all stood around the grave site for a moment when one of her closest friends approached me and my other siblings. She gave us all some words of comfort, and then she said that she knows my sister is alright and that she would visit each of us and give us peace. Then she looked at me and said that first and most especially she would visit me. I was distraught, so the last thing I could imagine was getting a visit from my sis.
I was staying at my Dad's house. I went to bed that night like any other night. I had a small black and white television on the nightstand to the right of my bed and I usually fell asleep with it on, only to awaken to snowy static in the morning. After falling asleep I began to have what seemed like a dream. I was in a really well lit room, like the conference room of an expensive hotel, golden walls and everything. But not opulent like a Trump condo, just classy and regal. I couldn't tell if it was paint or just glowing walls. One side of the room led outside to an area where the ground was dry and cracked. Through each crack in the ground was a tag sticking out. Something told me to go out and grab one of the tags; it wasn't a voice or anything, more like I was just compelled to do it. At that point my mother appears next to me, so we both go and retrieve the tag. I pull the tag out of the ground and it has my sister's name on it. I hold it close to my chest and start crying and next thing I know we are back inside the room, but this time there is a golden ladder in the middle of the room leading up. I was not able to see what the ladder led to, but again I was compelled to climb it. I looked at my mother, as if for permission, and then I climbed. When I reached the top I was in another similarly designed room. At that moment my sister glided across the other side of the room in a long white gown. She looked radiant, not at all the way cancer made her appear in the end. She went and stood next to an ornate fireplace mantle at one end of the room. I ran to her and hugged her and told her I was worried about where she was. In her usual sarcastic tone she told me of course she is okay and rhetorically asked me where did I think she would be. We had this conversation telepathically. She then took me across the room to sit down and talk. But, either that is when the visit ended or I just have never been able to recall what we talked about. I've always figured maybe one day I would, when I need whatever she had to share.
I opened my eyes and I could see the light from my television, but I could not move a muscle. Then I shifted my eyes to the front and I could see the silhouette of my body above me. Then my silhouette started rolling down towards my body, like how cards look when you shuffle them. When it stopped rolling down to me I was able to move again. I got up and burst into tears. I later told my mother, who, although she did not get a similar visit was convinced it was my sister doing her part to give me comfort just the way she always had in life.
I have not had a fear of death since, which I think helped me to live an
incredible life up to this point. I thank her for that. Although my heart still
aches and I can't necessarily say living without her has gotten easier, the
experience gives me so much joy for her and so much hopeful anticipation for me.
I know I'll see her and my other loved ones again. Lastly, neither of my
siblings had a similar experience. My sister didn't have kids, but my mom always
said she acted as though I was her child and not her little brother. I always
figured that's why she made it a point to make sure I know without a doubt that
she is more than ok. Give thanks!
At the time of your experience was there an associated life-threatening event? No
Was the experience difficult to express in words? No
At what time during the experience were you at your highest level of consciousness and alertness? When I 'came back.' Although I couldn't move, I was completely lucid.
How did your highest level of consciousness and alertness during the experience compare to your normal everyday consciousness and alertness? More consciousness and alertness than normal I think that moment was one of the most defined moments of clarity about love and life that I've ever had.
Please compare your vision during the experience to your everyday vision that you had immediately prior to the time of the experience. I wear glasses for nearsightedness in everyday life, but during the visit I was able to see everything clearly, near or far.
Please compare your hearing during the experience to your everyday hearing that you had immediately prior to the time of the experience. There was no sound. The dialogue was all internal, telepathic.
Did you see or hear any earthly events that were occurring during a time that your consciousness / awareness was apart from your physical / earthly body? Yes When I was unable to move I could see the ambient light in the room and my ceiling. I was also able to hear the static from the TV.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Love. Abundant love. Joy for my sister. Hopefulness.
Did you pass into or through a tunnel? No
Did you see an unearthly light? Yes There was a glow, for sure.
Did you seem to encounter a mystical being or presence, or hear an unidentifiable voice? I encountered a definite being, or a voice clearly of mystical or unearthly origin
It was clearly my sister, but in this beautiful while dress with lace.
Did you encounter or become aware of any beings who previously lived on earth who are described by name in religions (for example: Jesus, Muhammad, Buddha, etc.)? No
Did you encounter or become aware of any deceased (or alive) beings? Yes My deceased sister
Did you become aware of past events in your life during your experience? No
Did you seem to enter some other, unearthly world? A clearly mystical or unearthly realm
A couple of rooms that were glowing and just regally designed.
Did time seem to speed up or slow down? Everything seemed to be happening at once; or time stopped or lost all meaning
I can't guess on how long I was there. It all seemed to happen in quick succession, and I don't know what we sat and talked about or for how long.
Did you suddenly seem to understand everything? No
Did you reach a boundary or limiting physical structure? No
Did you come to a border or point of no return? No
Did scenes from the future come to you? No
During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness suggesting that there either is (or is not) continued existence after earthly life (“life after death”)? Yes My sister showing herself and telling me she was okay suggested to me that there is continued existence.
During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that God or a supreme being either does (or does not) exist? No
During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that you either did (or did not) exist prior to this lifetime? No
During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that a mystical universal connection or unity/oneness either does (or does not) exist? No
During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding earthly life’s meaning or purpose? No
During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding earthly life’s difficulties, challenges, or hardships? No
During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding love? No
During your experience, did you encounter any other specific information / awareness that you have not shared in other questions that is relevant to living our earthly lives? No
Did you have a sense of knowing special knowledge or purpose? No
What occurred during your experience included: Content that was both consistent and not consistent with the beliefs you had at the time of your experience I didn't consider myself a part of any religion at the time, but I imagine my ideas were shaped by being raised a Christian. At that point in my life I hadn't been exposed to any other religion.
How accurately do you remember the experience in comparison to other life events that occurred around the time of the experience? I remember the experience more accurately than other life events that occurred around the time of th It is something I will never, ever, forget. I generally have a good memory, especially for details. The experience was not something I wished for, or even thought was possible.
Discuss any changes that might have occurred in your life after your experience: Aside from releasing me of any fear of death, it made me much more curious about the afterlife and what lies beyond what we are able to see.
My experience directly resulted in: Large changes in my life
Did you have any changes in your values or beliefs after the experience that occurred as a result of the experience? No
Do you have any psychic, non-ordinary or other special gifts after your experience that you did not have before the experience? No
Have you ever shared this experience with others? Yes I shared it with my mom almost immediately and with my siblings soon after.
Did you have any knowledge of near death experience (NDE) prior to your experience? No
What did you believe about the reality of your experience shortly (days to weeks) after it happened: Experience was definitely real My views have not changed from the time it happened. It felt like nothing I have ever experienced, so it stands out.
What do you believe about the reality of your experience at the current time: Experience was definitely real
Have your relationships changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Have your religious beliefs/spiritual practices changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
At any time in your life, has anything ever reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did the questions asked and information that you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes