Joan R's ADC

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Experience description:

i was lying in bed half watching tv when i felt the bed go down beside me.  The bed only went down when you sat on it, so you can imagine how scared i was. i was stiff with fright as i couldn't see anyone.  but i could feel them beside me, so i asked if it was my ma and i could here her saying "yes." (but in my head if you know what i mean)  it wasn't out loud and she spoke to me for a good hour or more telling me it was so quick, so quick, but she was glad i had come to stay with her. so i said i had promised her when she was alive i would stay and that's why i was there. 

she started rubbing my hair to relax me while we were talking and i eventually went to sleep relaxed and happy to know she knew i hadn't left her on her own. i can smell her at other times and she came to stay in my house a few times since.  my granddaughter has seen and spoken to her a lot since she died but she seems to have a lot of friends who are dead and even has arguments with them. she is four and very in tune with people we can't see. even in the canary islands last year she spoke to a few kids who she said used to live where our apartment was.  she named them and all and they were foreign names that she hadn't heard before so i know she's not making it up.  we don't make a fuss if she talks about one of her {friends}  we just act as if every one can see them too, as she actually sees them. i did when i was younger but now i only feel them i know when there is someone there even if i can't see them.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:   i heard her talking to me and felt her rubbing my hair i could hear her as if she was there beside me

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  it was like she was talking in my head and i was answering back in my head i didn't open my mouth yet i had a conversation with her

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           it was my ma's voice i would know it anywhere

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no i was alone in the house and the tv was low on a singing station

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no no way i know what i heard

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            Yes

she rubbed my hair and my face

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   it was familiar as my ma knows i like my hair rubbed to relax me and she liked it to

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  a feeling of peace

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  no

Did you see the deceased?         No

i saw what appeared to me to be a circle of light glowing i know that sounds queer but that's the easiest way to describe it

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            the baby i lost has appeared a couple of times but she gets older every year and is perfect she looks like a younger version of my other daughter

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      Yes

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?           my ma smoked major cigs and they have a stronger smell than my fathers smokes so you can tell it was her and a faint smell of perfume or the odd time incense

            Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?     as above

            Was anything communicated by the smell?   just a feeling that she was there

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?        no i don't smoke and i have got it in my car a few times i never let my ma smoke in the car

How long did the experience last?        the first about an hour and a half and various times since

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

the first time i could feel that she was in shock as she died very sudden and she told me it knocked her for six

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  yes about things that we put in the coffin with her she said to thank my sister for stuff she gave her that i didn't know about so i said it to my sister the next day and she asked me how i knew she put the items in and i said ma told me

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          i'm not the type to make things like this up and i know what happened was real

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Yes

it was in as much as i was talking in my head not out loud

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           i felt fear first then when i knew who it was joy

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

she let me know that she was all right so i didn't feel as if she was on her own

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      the worst part was when she went and the best was when i knew she had come to see me

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            No

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Yes

yes the stuff she said was put in with her i could ask my sisters about

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            sad that she went away again but glad that she came to see me

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   Uncertain

i felt as if time was standing still

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         Uncertain

i have always known when certain members of my family were sick and on a couple of occasions when they had heart attacks

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            Yes

i lost two kids very early in a previous pregnancy and my niece at six months and iv seen her with them but they are bigger now they grow and get older as if they were here

Did you see a light?           Yes

it was like a circle of lights glowing that is the only way to describe it

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes

yes my two sisters and one of my brothers and a couple of friends

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

i lost a baby a few years ago and was losing a lot of blood they thought i was gone at one stage i just remember floating away and feeling at peace like i could just let go and float away

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    not that i can think of off hand