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Experience description:  

I have to go back in time first so here goes. I was about 15 in 1981 and living in England. My dad was in the air force. I will call my friend "A" (his first initial). My family got to England the summer of 1979 and I met "A" at school and we became good friends. We were stationed in England for 3 years and left the summer of 1982. Anyway, I did not see "A" the whole summer of 81 because he flew back to the states to visit his dad (his parents were divorced). We lived off base and he rode my bus but lived in a different village. The first day of school I get on the bus and he is real excited. He has his boom box and wants us to listen to a song he heard in the states. The greatest song he has ever heard and it has not come out yet in England and he is predicting it will be out soon and be number one. So, he turns his boom box on hits play and I hear I Love Rock 'n' Roll by Joan Jett for the first time and everyone is mesmerized by the beat, just a great song all round. "A" is living it up because he was the first to hear this song and bring it to us. Sure enough a few weeks later it plays for the first time on the bus radio (we rode coach style buses) and "A" starts yelling I told you, I told you, it's going to be number one. So eventually I believe it did make number one in England and every time it played on the bus radio "A" would start to yell "I told you all about this song" but he would always get cut off by everyone on the bus yelling back "we know "A" you told us about this song" all good fun. So, that was that, I always associated "A" with this song. 

So, about 12-14 years ago I am messing around on the computer late at night and I find my old school in England has a website so I go on in and I'm looking at old pictures of the school and everything, there wasn't much to see. I was about to log off and I saw this one title that said "In Memory of" not knowing what it was I clicked on it. It was a memorial and there were 5 names on it, 2 teachers I remembered, 2 students I never heard of and "A". When I saw his name my blood ran cold, I literally felt numb from head to toe. I just stared at the screen for a couple of minutes, I remember thinking what happened to you "A" what went wrong, why did you die, when did you die. This was the first time I found out "A" was dead, it was late at night and I just turned off my computer and went to bed. I lay in bed staring at the ceiling in the dark, I know I said a prayer for him then I rolled over and checked the volume on my alarm by switching it on. I tune my radio into smooth jazz because I don't like getting jarred awake by hard rock but when I turned my radio on there was just static. So, I fiddled with the receiver until I found a station that sounded nice, I did it by touch because it was in the dark and I then went to sleep. You can imagine my surprise and awe when my alarm goes off in the morning and it's blaring Joan Jett I Love Rock 'n' Roll a song I had not heard back then for several years. I just sat on the edge of the bed and stared at my radio playing I Love Rock 'n' Roll much to the annoyance of my wife. Funny thing was I didn't even need to set my alarm, it was Saturday. Maybe it was coincidence, but I don't think so. I think "A" knew I just found out that he had died and I took it pretty bad. I think it was his was of saying I'm ok bro, I'm alive, everything is going to be ok.

Was the experience difficult to express in words?     No  

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?  Uncertain 

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?  

Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:     the song on the radio                            

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?   No                                            

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?    No               

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?    Experience was definitely real    It could have been a coincidence, I just don't think it was. When I sat there in the dark listening to that song I just had the sense that he was observing and that he was smiling because his little plan worked and I knew he was ok and that's what he wanted to convey to me.

Was the experience dream like in any way?    No   

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?    Yes    I was almost instantly over the shock of the previous night when I found out he had died.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    The worst was the way in which I found out "A" had died and the best was the moment the alarm went off, it was as if I instantly knew it was a message from my buddy.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?    Uncertain        

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?    Uncertain                   

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?   No

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?    No   

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?       No   

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?        No   

Did you become aware of future events?           No   

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?     No   

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?    No   

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?    No   

Did you see a light?    No   

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?   No   

Have you shared this experience with others?    Yes    They seem to like the story, I guess it gives them hope. I hardly share it and I'm careful who I share it with.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?    No   

Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?    no, I don't think there is anything else.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?    No   

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?   No   

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?      Yes    I had an OBE but didn't feel like writing about it this time, maybe one day.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?    Yes