Julia J ADCs
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EXPERIENCE DESCRIPTION

 OK so the first time was the night my mum died in 2005. She died overnight and that night when I went to bed I felt a strange ring of butterflies around my head. I knew nothing about ADCs and butterflies until recently but I just knew it was mum coming to say goodbye.

The second time was very strange. My mum had been dead for a few months (she loved wildlife and particularly birds). My dad was very miserable and came to our house for lunch every Sunday. I had an olive tree in a large pot outside my patio doors and whenever my dad came and sat in the armchair by the window, there was a little blue tit which would just constantly knock on the window with his beak. He would literally do it for half an hour, fly off into the tree and come back and start again. As soon as my dad went home he stopped. This went on for quite a few weeks and several people witnessed it. We simply could not explain why it was only when my dad was sat there. One Monday morning I was driving to work and a blue tit flew right in front of my car windscreen, looked at me and flew off. We never saw the blue tit doing anything like that again. I am sure that was my mum's spirit. If she could come back as anything, it would be a bird for sure!

The final time was approx a month after my dad had passed in 2010. My dad and mum always helped and loved my garden and sat in a certain spot near the back door when they stopped for tea. One day I came out of my back door and my mum and dad were there looking lovely and had beaming smiles on their faces and were leaning against my garage doors and looked young and happy. They were holding hands and just sort of faded out of view. This gave me enormous comfort and I don't care what people believe, I saw them and I look back on that now when I remember them.

 Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?       No

 Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?       No

 Did you see the deceased?       Yes

 Very happy, healthy and smiling.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Totally clear as if they were real.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       Complete

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?   I would say around 40-ish

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?           Very healthy

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No

 Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

 How long did the experience last?      A few seconds

 Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?      Sudden beginning - faded end

 Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          Yes

 Happy and healthy

 Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?          No

 How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          Experience was definitely real

           Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   I saw them, felt their prescece

           Was the experience dream like in any way?  No

 Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:  Comforted and relieved they had found each other

 Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes

 Felt is was the beginning of the end of my grieving process

 What was the best and worst part of your experience?     No worst part - best part was knowing my mum and dad who really could not live without each other, were together

 Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No     

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No     

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?   Yes          It made me realize you do meet up in the afterlife - may be brief but it wouldn't matter

 Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?         No

 Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?          Contentment

 Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          No

 Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

 Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?         No

 Did you become aware of future events?      No

 Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?  No

 Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?   No

 Did you see a light?        No

 Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?     No

 Have you shared this experience with others?      

Yes    The few people I told were supportive and said if I did see them or didn't see them it made no difference because it comforted me in my grief

 Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?       No

 Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?          No

 Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?    No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?     Yes 

I had a very high temperature one night about 10 years ago and had the light at the end of the tunnel experience - my son was about 15 and had just started going out and about on his own and I was very stressed about it - the experience made me forget all bad things and was like floating on a cloud with no worries

 Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                     Yes