My brother and I had a pact, that if one of us should die we would get in contact if possible, with the one left behind. We both felt that we had a deeply spiritual bond that transcended brother/sister earthly relationships...in other words, we had traveled many roads together in previous lives.)
You see I knew he had AIDS, and though he was in total denial, my little spirit was compelled to try and force him to prepare for the inevitable.
As a result, after his death and in the months leading up to it; I was ostracized by all other members of my family, even to the point of being accused of causing his death by "my lack of faith."
Needless to say this caused extreme distress, and an excessive amount of needless grief, and emotional pain...I 'spoke' to Mark daily often for hours at a time, begging him to contact me, to assuage the guilt and remorse I felt, and to please assure me that he was ok and still near to me....
The actual experience...
Preceding Marks death and during the time of the experience my only child had gone missing and had been 'lost' for 7 years...at the moment of the experience I was working on the PC going through various search engines looking for my son.
There was a program on the Pc to take voice messages, an online call waiting service that,was used to answer calls with a one-phone line dial up connection.
The 'phone' rang...I choose not to answer at that moment...waited for the message to record...which is very strange in and of its self because I was also at that time Waiting for a very important call, but the machines service also included the callers phone ID, very much likened to today's caller ID service... there was no caller ID, the 'number from' was blank, empty, not even the 'caller unknown' message was there. In a few moments, I played back the "message" Clear as a bell, loudly, I first heard a bit of static, then my Marks voice saying "Hello! Hello?!" THE LINE WENT EMPTY, BUT NO DIAL TONE FOLLOWED...I recognized his voice, the tone, the inflection, the expression that was uniquely his. A jolt like lighting went through my soul! I franticly tried to retrace the call (ridiculous now I realize) Finally dawned on me to press Save this message. It did. (thank goodness)
For two more months I played the message over and over, daily, sometimes as many as ten or twenty times a day...it gave me a comfort beyond belief, a transcending of the fear if you allow me to say. All the while still searching for my missing boy, when ever I came to a fearful thought; I'll never find him, He's dead, or something terrible has happened to my baby); I would replay the message and the peace would settle my spirit. SO SIMPLE YET SO PROFOUND!
At the end of these two months, I received another phone call over the regular phone, it was my boy! He said "Hello! Hello?!"(Just like his Uncle Mark) "Momma I want to come home!"...Two weeks later he was safe in my arms again.
Jonathans story; he had been living in Georgia, had his own small business, and two months past had got an unusual message on his cell phone, (that had a private unlisted number). The message had no caller ID, yet he recognized the voice was that of his Uncle Mark, though it did not identify its self, The voice said, "JONATHAN,CALL YOUR MOM SHE NEEDS YOU!" The line then went blank without a dial tone. He was very p***ed off, how did his uncle get his phone number and why hadn't he left a # to call back on? He called a few friends back here in Texas and learned that his uncle had died and that his mom was in a bad way, that prompted him to come on back home.
course I replayed the message on my machine back to him and even though he had
erased his message, he recognized and affirmed that it was the same voice that
had admonished him to "phone home". Needless to say it freaked him out a bit!
Date of experience: cant remember exact date, approx. three years ago...or more precisely two years after the death
Length of time between death of deceased and your experience: approx. two years
Was the date of the experience significant in any way? critical time...this one was facing homelessness, much strife in life@ this point. was seeking confirmation of the after death experience, much prayer, meditation, research going on; multiplied by extreme distress's
General geographic location of experience: Texas, Kaufman...actually this is not accurate, the contact was made via the internet!
Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience: Sitting at PC deep in thought...actually awaiting an important phone call.
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience: Severe sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience: Slightly drowsy
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences? Uncertain don't know if this should be considered one or two experiences
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: Mark's voice saying "Hello! Hello?!" The voice said, "JONATHAN CALL YOUR MOM SHE NEEDS YOU!"
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? Very clearly loudly over the pc phone line!
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Identical to his voice. Unmentioned earlier, Mark was a TWIN, his brother has heard the message and confirmed that it was Mark. Then in terror refused to listen to it again...Odd huh?
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? Absolutely not.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Uncertain
A warmth, thrilling and all over my body, Don't know if the sensation was created by emotion or actual 'touch'
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? impossible to describe
Was anything communicated by the touch? LOVE
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? only emotional
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? less than 30 seconds
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? very sudden
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
curiosity, urgency, like trying to contact. eerrr....very much like today's commercial "Can you hear me now?" Yes, this best describes it.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? the voice was that of his Uncle Mark, though it did not identify its self, The voice said, "JONATHAN CALL YOUR MOM SHE NEEDS YOU!"
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: Kept the 'experience' as a recorded message on the PC for a year after. Would still have it, but the PC was stolen from storage while I was homeless.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Mostly, to coin a phrase, delighted shock and awe! I recognized his voice, the tone, the inflection, the expression that was uniquely his. A jolt like lighting went through my soul!
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
My son and I were reconciled, I was able to let go of the grief, the painful emotions and heart ache surrounding my brothers death.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The best, of course hearing my beloved brothers voice, and having my missing child returned to me...The worst, I fear that I will never hear from him in this lifetime again...it's profoundly sad.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I have a compelling obsession to share this experience with anyone who will listen, to promote faith in the universal order of things...to Love everyone I meet, and to accept that what will be will be and though we can change things as creators, it is not all ways wise to do so.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes Believed that the possibly impossible was possible ;)
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Uncertain Still wonder, Where Was He? Not in the Heaven or Hell sense, but more on a universal, space/time dimensional way..
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? Yes
You have to understand, this was made tongue in cheek with neither of us knowing it could be done, but both of us serious in our promise.
My brother and I had a pact, that if one of us should die we would get in contact if possible, with the one left behind. Also I pressed him if he should go first, to please help me find my missing son, and to "spook" him into coming back home.
contact word was to be "Frankie Dog" after our beloved pet, unfortunately
Frankie Dog was very old and had to be put to sleep about six months after Marks
death...I grieved as much over the dog as I did my brother...weird huh?
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Yes My son was the one who received the most profound message, to call home, that his mom needed him.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? it gave me a comfort beyond belief, a transcending of the fear if you allow me to say...the peace would settle my spirit. SO SIMPLE YET SO PROFOUND!
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
1.Tried to share the call I received with several others, they didn't care or didn't recognize his voice.
erased his voicemail message because he didn't know at the time that his uncle
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Yes
A lot of telekinetic energy...Could not keep a light bulb burning in the house for more than a few hours at a time! Odd, I had forgotten about this till you asked!
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? Uncertain, apparently there was a communication at the same time to another person, my son, who was (unknown to me) about 1000 miles away
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes mostly disbelief until story is confirmed by my son. Many have gone on to thank me for sharing this, especially those who have been counseled after the loss of their loved ones..
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? Uncertain
I believe I may told this to another site right after it happened...Yes ,I do remember, before my son came home in the two months after the call, I searched the internet for ADCs seem to remember finding one such site and recording my experience there, but the person who asked for the information never contacted me back.. I assume now that the web site was run by curious young people with no real interest in factual information.
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? YES, Thank You for allowing me to share this.
Mark has tied me to the PC this morning and 'made' me fill out this form.
LOL, he always was an imp with a wicked sense of humor, and must know that I
should be in the kitchen cooking breakfast for my new family right now, but I
cant seem to tear myself away from the typewriter!
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes Near drowning at age ten, with a very short life review.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes I believe ya'll got it down pat.
Because my experience was shared by my son, I hesitated to fill out two forms, please forgive me that omission.
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. I don't believe so.