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Karen N's ADC

Experience description:  

after mom's funeral, when I returned home, I checked her guestbook on legacy. I saw and entry with my mother's name on it, When I called Legacy and had them look at it. The had no record of anyone making an entry, When you make an entry, you must provide an email and no email was found. I believe when I asked mom to let me know she reached heaven, and she promised me she would, this was her word made good, and God's gift of reassurance to me.

The second time after I came back from the dog walk, and my apartment smelled of smoke, I didn't know what to think. Maybe it was her way of letting me know she is still around from time to time.

Her greatest gift to me was her gifts of faith and prayer. I just home she comes back again.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      Yes

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?           cigarette smoke.

            Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?     yes, she was a smoker

            Was anything communicated by the smell?   not that I am aware of

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?        no

How long did the experience last?        15 minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         sudden

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           No

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  no

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           The cigarettes were her passion in life. She was probable letting me know she can smoke now with no harmful effects. The first experience is real because in May when I asked to to let me know she was in heave, she said "O promise I will."

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No   I saw the signature and smelled the smoke.    

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           well. it was after the funeral and I was grieving badly.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

O was in grief counseling and these experience helped in the grief process.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      the security of knowing Mom is health and happy, and not suffering, There is no worst part.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes                 Describe:      yes it altered my career choices. I am seeking a move back into the eldercare support service.  My faith is stronger.         

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   Yes     I have a stronger faith and trust in God.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes     it started a study of the afterlife for me.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

I guess that's what happened in May when Mom promised to let me know, then signing her guestbook on the day she was buried. I didn't think it would happen so soon.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            surprise, hopefulness and some degree of peace, knowing she is with God now.

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     skepticism. they think it is grief based.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       no

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No