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Kathy H's ADC

Experience description:  

At my mother's service-behind the Hospice.  A minister conducted and he had Xeroxed sheets to follow with a rainbow across the corner of the sheet-at the very end of the service a beautiful rainbow appeared in the sky and a large bird landed on the cupola that we were under.  About 30 people saw it.   A day after the service my 25 year old daughter pointed out that my mother's clock was broke in her car which we were using while in Florida-it had stopped at the time of her death.  The power went out in my sister's house as she was writing the bio for my mother's service.  The power went out at the Edward Jones office while my sister and I were discussing my mother's will and trust with her financial advisor, Dianne. A lot of light bulbs blew out in my and other close relatives homes for a couple of weeks.  The TV turned off while my husband and I were watching it about a week after her death.  Around the same time, I was painting at my kitchen table and listening to Rush Limbaugh on the radio (my mother thought he was a pompous ass) I had to run to my husbands dental office with some papers pertaining to my mother's estate and didn't turn off the radio, when I got back it took me a while to realize that Rush didn't sound at all like himself and I thought maybe he had a bad cold-the station was on a different station.  My radio station has changed several times while driving.  The last time it happened, I said :cut it out Ma and it went back to my channel.  My sister is taking my Mom's death very hard and one day a couple of weeks after her death, Bonnie's cell phone rang but with a different song.  Thursday of this last week I told my Mom that I'm fine and that I really don't need more signs but that my sister could use one-I told her that Bonnie was happy with the ring tone incident and maybe she should do that again.  My sister emailed me and told me that on Thursday her ring tone rang the wrong tone again.  There have probably been other incidents that I'm not remembering right now as there have obviously been quite a few.  I did whisper into my Mom's ear that last day (she was in a coma) that I'd love for her to send me a sign as it would give me great comfort.  but I'm starting to feel that this is over-kill.  Is she just having a good time-which would be lovely-or is she trying to tell me something?

Was this experience difficult to express in words? No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

          Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:      A couple of weeks ago I pushed my message machine and there was a call that was just static.  At the end of the recording I heard "Bink?"  in her voice.  I played it back and the word wasn't there.  My nickname has Been Bink since I was 2.

          Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?         seemed to be part of the recording

          If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?         identical

          Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?      Perhaps-don't know

          Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? no

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?          Yes

A soft touch in the small of my back about 3 times as I was falling asleep-thought it was my cat-turned the light on-no cat.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?  Familiar as my cat sometimes noses me at nite if she's hungry

          Was anything communicated by the touch?  nope

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?         Could be I suppose

Did you see the deceased?        No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?   No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?         Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   I don't think I'm crazy and these types of things haven't happened before.  I'd just like to know what she's trying to tell me.

          Was the experience dream like in any way?  No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:         At first Holy Cow.  Now, what are you trying to tell me.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Yes

It made me feel that there is indeed something after and that she's somewhere.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    Best part she honored my request.  Worst part I wonder if I'm missing something.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?       No     

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         Yes    Initially I figured she was honoring my wish for a sign but isn't this rather excessive?  Why?

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?     

Just that I asked her to send me a sign.  I figured there might be one or two-but all these?

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         Yes Well, as I explained, some of the occurrences involved other-some not.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?          At first relief and comfort and Holy cow-now what are you trying to tell me.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          Sometimes people were present-sometimes not

Did you see a light?         No

Although, in her process of dying, I told her to go to the light.  I thought she was out of it at the time but without opening her eyes she said "do you have a book"? and I said "yes"  and she said "go read it"  So I went to the lobby and read my book.

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?       
Only the places I mentioned.

Have you shared this experience with others?      Yes    I've shared these experiences with people close to me and her.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?          nope

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?     No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?    No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?  maybe.  I was near death at the age of 17.  Mono, hepatitis, strep throat and full blown sunstroke.  I truly believed that I was going-and it was OK.  But then I woke up a lot of hours later in the hospital and was surprised to be alive.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?           Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.          Can you give me any input as to what if anything she's trying to tell me.  I do kind of get the feeling that she's having fun with a new toy.