Kerry ADC
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Experience description:

I had got up early hours of the morning then went into my sons bedroom as he was in work and went back to sleep in there so as not wake my husband.

In my dream the phone rang and I was expecting it to be my mother(who is alive).

I heard "hello Ker" I was shocked as I knew it was my dad I said "who is it?" and he replied "you know who it is you have heard my voice enough times on the phone" I started to cry and said that the doctors at the hospital must have made a mistake as they had told me that he had died he didn't give me a reply I said that they were right and that you are dead aren't you, but he still wouldn't answer the question. Then he said "its ok now I have spoke to you like this I can come back and see you" as if he was on holiday and coming back.

Then I was sat up in my sons bed and my dad was sat on the bed at the side of the bed holding my hand. He looked slightly paler and was wearing a grey shirt he didn't look happy he had more of a look of concern on his face. I said I was sorry for not being there for him more etc he said that I should not worry about things like that. I said that I was so glad to hear it from him, that I knew it would be what he would say but was so glad to hear him say it himself. He said that was his job to make me feel better. He said that if it wasn't for me he wouldn't have had a life and that I must live a life while I am here and that I must look after my family now. There were other things said but I cannot remember them.  I leaned forward to hug him and woke up sat up in bed.I was wide awake  and the bedroom was exactly the same. The dream was in the same bedroom being as I don't sleep there usually. I felt slight sadness at first then I felt elation and thanked him for coming to see me. 

Was this experience difficult to express in words?          Yes

 can't remember all that was said and some of it was feelings in the dream not what was actually said

 Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?        No

 Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

             Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:    I heard my fathers voice on the phone first then in the bedroom he sat with me

             Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?      on phone sounded like he was gone on holiday then in bedroom sounded the same but slightly different can't explain how

             If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           same

             Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no possibility

             Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no

 Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes

 held my hand

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   unfamiliar we didn't hold hands only when my dad died I held his hand.

             Was anything communicated by the touch?  feeling of understanding

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

 Did you see the deceased?         Yes

 My dad looked the same just a bit paler but better than when he had died, He had a grey shirt on could not see much else as he was sat on my bed.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            solid

            How much of the deceased did you see?       legs up to head

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       appeared same age just looked slightly fuller in face but did not look well

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            did not look totally well looked concerned and slightly grey

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

 Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

 How long did the experience last?        probably 2-4 minutes

 Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         both were sudden shock at my dad being on end of phone when it rang then when I went to hug him I woke up suddenly

 Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

 concerned

 Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  He said things that I hadn't thought of

 How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

             Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           I can't explain it I have felt so much better since the experience even though I am still lost without my dad

             Was the experience dream like in any way?   N0 comment

 What did you feel (while awake) immediately prior to your experience?            Relaxed        
             
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I felt shock at first then I thought that it was wrong my dad was still alive then sadness at the reality that he was dead relief and elation at seeing him again to speak again

 Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

 I felt uplifted less depressed

 What was the best and worst part of your experience?      best to talk again. Worst knowing that my dad had died as at first I believed he hadn't died

 Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes                 Describe:            don't feel as depressed

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Uncertain      I felt that I was able to speak again to my dad, as my dad died suddenly and apologize for things etc

 Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?   No      

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?            No

 Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?     No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            calmness relief happy

 Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

 Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

 Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?            Uncertain

 my dad said the order was for him to look after me now my turn to look after my family

 Did you become aware of future events?       No

 Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?  No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

 Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

 Did you see a light?           No

 Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?          Yes

 the phone call he was somewhere else

 Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes     they believe me

 Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?            N0 comment

 Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

 Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?       No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                     Yes

 Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    no