Kim H's ADC
My parents were throwing a party at our house for my uncle and grandmothers birthdays (which were 1 day apart). Many of my relatives including my uncle were in town for the party. I was only 4 years old. I remember feeling overwhelmed that so many people were in our house. I also recall that my grandmother was not feeling well that day so she told my father that she was going to rest for a while and he could pick her up later. ( She lived over an hour away).
That evening my father and uncle called her several times and she didn't answer. I remember seeing my father calling her again and wondering why she did not answer and my mother saying that she probably was napping. I then told my mother that she was not napping, she had died. My mother immediately got upset and Asked me why I said that. I told her I said it because it was true. She then told me not to repeat what I said.
My father and uncle decided to travel to my grandmothers house after still not reaching her. When they arrived they discovered her laying across her bed. She was in fact dead.
The evening of her funeral I was laying on my bed looking out of the window. She appeared in the window wearing the pink dress she was cremated in. She was smiling at me and said that she was ok. At first, I was terrified as she looked like a healthier version of herself but was not a solid figure but she comforted me by saying she was ok.
I ran and told my
parents that I saw her and she told me to tell them she was ok. Naturally they
told me I must just be tired and to go to bed. I had several more encounters
that my parents experienced after that as well. Now as an adult, I asked my
mother if she remembered what I told her. She does remember but told me that I
scared her and still can't really come to terms as I have had other experiences
when other family members transitioned.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I clearly heard my grandmother say that she was ok. I then heard my conscience tell me to let "them" know she's ok.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? It was inside of me but was her voice
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Yes
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No, there was no one around
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
She was a healthier more vibrant version of herself but was not a solid figure.
How clearly did the deceased appear? Somewhat transparent
How much of the deceased did you see? The top half. She was on the other side of the window.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? Yes, only more vibrant.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? She seemed healthier and more vibrant as previously stated.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No comment
How long did the experience last? A minute or two.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Sudden
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
She seemed happy.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I have no idea how I would know at 4 years old that my grandmother was not picking up her phone because she was "dead". I have had several other experiences since that time.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was confused as to why me telling my parents made them more upset at the time.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
It was my first experience with death and I felt like I was coached through it by the deceased.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The best part was knowing that my grandmother is happy because she deserves to be. The worst is my parents shunning the experience.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Uncertain I was very young so I think the experience shaped my views.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Uncertain I am still not very clear on how to feel. I think it mostly is due to others reactions when dealing with death.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? Yes
Yes, when my moms mother died in 2004, I held her hand as she was dying and asked her to let me know she was ok. The next morning, walking out of the nursing home where she died, my then boyfriend ( now fiancÚ) and I saw several doves flying over us. We then went back to my moms house and opened the door, and all of her lights turned on in the house when we sat down.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? I was sad because I was unsure that anyone believed me. I thought that my parents would be happy like I was to get that message from my grandmother.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Uncertain
I am not sure. I did have other experiences after.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes I told my fiancÚ. I am sure that he believed me because he also was there when I had an experience when my other grandmother crossed over but I do not speak to him about it much because I do not feel he is very comfortable with it.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
I have had several, mostly good with the exception of one.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Because I was so young, only the main details are vivid.
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. No.