Laura K's ADC 

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Experience description:  

Shortly after my husband's best friend's step-dad committed suicide after shooting his wife (it was either the day of his death or the day after, not sure), my husband and I were on the way the house where this occurred to help his son clean up the "mess". That in itself was a terrible unpleasant thing to have to do but he and his girlfriend needed help so there we were offering to help. My husband and I were at a small convenient store getting some things. He was in the store and I was waiting in the car.

Suddenly, I was overcome with the most awful sadness and despair that I had ever experienced. I was not sure at first what was happening since i did not know the deceased when he was alive. Then, I began to feel that he was there with me, inside my mind and he began talking to me like that, not audibly, but extremely clear just the same. He told me to remind Scott his step-son that they had had some wonderful years together and that things were not always as bad as right before his death.

He had been very depressed and his marriage was in a bad state. He was on medication for depression as well as for Parkinson's disease. He relayed, not with words but with "feeling" how he had felt for a while before his death. It seemed that I was experiencing the sadness, despair, and hopelessness that he felt at those times. When my husband returned I was crying and I explained to him what had happened. He said that I should tell Scott what Harold had "said". I agreed wondering if Scott would think I was crazy. I shared this experience with Scott and he was very grateful to have heard from his dad. I asked to see a picture of Harold, as I had gotten a picture of him in my mind as he spoke to me. The picture that I saw looked very much like the one in my mind but it seemed to be at a time when he was happier and younger. I was very glad that Harold was able to reach me to share what he wanted to say to his son.

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  Inside my mind

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           didn't know him when alive

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           absolutely not

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

How clearly did the deceased appear?            a picture in my mind

How much of the deceased did you see?       can't really remember

Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       no, younger

How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            He seemed ok but not sure how healthy. He had Parkinson's and major depression.

Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

How long did the experience last?        maybe 3-5 minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         Beginning was sudden and end more gradual

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  Since I didn't know him i would not have known much of anything about his life. He just gave me the message to give to his son.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          The feelings were so strong and i could hear the words in my mind. I would have had no reason to imagine these things.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           During the experience I was overwhelmed with depression, sadness, despair and hopelessness

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      feelings of despair

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Yes, picture of deceased in my mind

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            slight sadness but calm

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Have you shared this experience with others?        


Son of the deceased was grateful for the message and my husband and brother whom I shared this with believed what I was saying.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   Yes

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes, spiritual event

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes