It was April of this year, three days after my 56th birthday.  I had been unwell for a while before that (sinus problems, pneumonia).  But on April 5th, I was so sick I could not go to work.  I remember collapsing in the bathroom, calling out to my husband.  Apparently he picked me up, put me to bed, tried to rouse me and was unable.  He called 911: the paramedics arrived quickly, worked on me for 30 minutes.  I was then transported by ambulance to emerge where I was diagnosed with bacterial meningitis.
( sinus abscess rupture )

Apparently I was in ICU for three days.  I remember that in emerge they were trying to keep me alert by slapping my face and asking me who is prime minister.  I did not have the physical strength to answer.  I then remember having a feeling of being in a very very black cavern and that I was falling ( a little like when Superman is falling in the new movie ). All of a sudden, there was a very white, warm glow that became a light, next to me.  I looked at it, I recall being at peace, warm and best of all pain free!  Then I saw Jesus !  I asked him if it was time for me to go and he nodded his head No!

So I asked Him to do something since He is God: he put his hand above my head.  That's when I looked to the side of His face and saw my son's! He telepathically told me: " MOM! I've got it covered !"  I then slept through CAT scans, MRI's, numerous blood tests, lumbar puncture, etc.  I know this is not a dream because I remember specifically everything about this visit.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?

No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

Yes

          Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?        

It was my son's voice.  Jesus just nodded.

          If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?        

It was his voice.

          Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?     

No, I was in coma at the time.

          Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?

I was comatose.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?         

No

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?        

NO!!!

Did you see the deceased?       

Yes

All I saw was his beautiful face.  The features were made up of light but I could tell at a glance that this was my son.  As for Jesus, I saw His upper torso ; he looked like a regular Jewish person; His eyes have the most calming effect!  His hand looked like a regular human hand too.  he wore a white gown.  All I saw was to the waist.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Jesus appeared quite solid.  My son's features were made of pure white bright light that did not hurt the eyes.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       Just my son's face.

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?            My son still looked 18, but I could feel strength and knowledge that were beyond that age.  His earth age is 33 now.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            He appeared extremely fit with a full head of hair !  ( chemo had wiped it out in a week, the doses were so massive ! )

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           NO!!!!!

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?  

No

How long did the experience last?      

Don't know time-wise, but long enough for everything to be said that needed saying.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         

Gradual.  Refer to answer no. 3.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?         

Yes  My son was very sure of himself!

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? 

Yes!  He let me know that he was taking care of me and the situation.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?        

Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:  

Because my son told me he would take care of me and he has.  Jesus told me it was not my time to go Home and I did wake up.

          Was the experience dream like in any way? 

No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:        

support, well-being, warmth, being taken care of, relief

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?         

Yes

It's comforting to really KNOW that an invisible hand holds ours!

What was the best and worst part of your experience?   

Best part was seeing my son and Jesus.  This to me is validation fo life after death.  Jesus did promise to go on ahead and prepare us a room in His Father's house.  He also promised to return !  and He does.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?      

Yes                Describe:    

I'm still here!

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?            Yes    Nice to see that our invisible means of support is

REAL!!!!

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         

Yes    My son still somehow knows what is going on with his mother.  By the same token he probably cares for his Dad, his surviving siblings and extended family.  This in itself is a comfort .

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?     

Yes

This agreement was made between my best friend who died three years ago and myself.  I did not sense her presence that April day, but the day after her own physical death, her voice did wake me up in the wee hours of the morning. She had called me by name.  she was chastising me to not be so sad!

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?        

No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?         

a Knowing that my son and my Jesus are Real, and that My Lord Jesus is taking care of Marc and of us, his family.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?         

No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?         

Uncertain

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?         

Yes

Jesus.  Refer to answer 3.

Did you see a light?        

Yes

Refer to #3.

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?        

No

Have you shared this experience with others?       

Yes    sometimes, but I am always quite guarded to whom.... a lot of people DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!!!  They would think it the ranting of a bereaved mother ( that's a stigma in itself ) or that the brain was swollen in the proper lobe to create this illusion that stems from religious upbringing." For those who believe no explanation is necessary; for those who don't no explanation will suffice." -

St. Augustine

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  

No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?         

No.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?     No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?   

No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? 

Yes 

When our third son was born, being blood type A-, I was in a condition called eclampsia and having a lot of difficulties.  As soon as he was born, I remember floating up to the ceiling and looking at the body on the bed; it was very still and greenish and pale.  Then I realized I was looking at me!  to see my husband crying brought me back into the form laying there.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?          

Yes

it was a good outline to follow. 

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.         

Are there other bereaved Moms who answer this ?  Do a lot of bereaved parents appear to have an experience similar to mine ?