In April of 2010 my father passed away from cancer. He did not want to die and was anxious and troubled right to the end. A week before his passing I had a dream involving my mother's grandfather, whom my father had known since he was in high school. My grandfather had been dead for over 15 years. In this dream, I was in a sparse room with only a TV and a VHS player. Though there were DVD's in the real world, my grandfather had never used them at the time of his death and only used VHS. In the dream, my grandfather was carrying a plate of spaghetti in one hand and a VHS tape in the other. I asked him what was going on but he never spoke to me, he just put in the tape and it began to play. I then watched as millions of images of my father flashed by on the screen, from birth, to child, teenager, adult, they passed so quickly I could only catch a few of them but I felt I was being shown my father's life review. I asked my grandfather what this meant but he did not speak and just began eating the spaghetti and smiling. He walked out of the room and I tried to follow but I could not leave the room. I stuck my head out of the door way though and watched him walk away while he was eating the spaghetti and I kept saying "What does this mean?" A week later my dad passed.

During the year after my father died, my mother, who he had been separated from but never legally divorced, heard him call her name while she was getting ready for bed and had several experiences of loud banging that was unexplained. I have two sisters and one brother. One sister began having experiences of her radio and TV going on by themselves and loud noises heard throughout her house that was also experienced by her husband and children. My other sister kept seeing a dark shape in the corner of her bedroom and she "felt" it was dad though she never saw his image. My brother had one calm dream where my father shook his hand and said he was OK. As for me, I began having dreams where I was talking to my father and he looked the same age as when he died, and still looked very ill from the cancer. The talks began calm and would always escalate to my father shouting and being very agitated. I would try to calm him in these dreams and when I awoke, I could never remember what he had been saying.

In the second year after his passing, the dreams stopped, so did the dark shape in my sister's room and my mother had no experiences any more as well. My sister with the radio and TV still had an occasionally small incident but not on the same scale as the first year.

For me, it was about February 2012 when I had the last dream I have had about my father. This time I was in a room that was narrow, only slightly larger than a hallway. There was no furniture and the floor was golden light wood. The walls were light, creamy, whitish gold. My father was sitting on the floor across from me with his legs stretched out in front of him. I was sitting the same way directly across from him. Our backs were against the walls of the room. My father looked to be only 20 or so, the same age when I had been born. He was young and beautiful and glowing, actually more like bursting with love, joy, happiness. He was just staring into my eyes and I was staring back, just overwhelmed by the love that I was feeling from him. He had a half smile on his face but he never spoke. I became aware that my husband was sitting next to me in the dream, but I couldn't see anything but my father in front of me. My husband began whispering in my ear, saying something like "How do you think things are going now? What do you think about how things are? That type of thing, to which I replied, "I think things are exactly as they are supposed to be!" At that moment, my young father stood and smiled at me then walked out of my line of vision. I woke up at the moment feeling he had finally crossed. I haven't dreamt of him like that since.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?          No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?        Uncertain

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you see the deceased?         No

How long did the experience last?        Uncertain as I was in a dream state.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         Just a dream, a beginning and an end.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           This is hard to explain as some of us believe that some dreams can be more than just our brains processing the days events. It's a matter of faith, I have that.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Yes

It was a dream.       

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I was so happy he had found peace and had crossed. I was relieved. It was pretty obvious he was having a hard time crossing over.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

He was happy, he had made it!

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Best, he is happy, the worst, he was lost and angry.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No           

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No       Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  Yes            Every glimpse that I am lucky enough to be gifted with, I am happy about.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?     Yes My sister's husband and children experienced the experiences they had together.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Happiness for him.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   Uncertain

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?            Uncertain

Did you become aware of future events?       Uncertain

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?  Uncertain

I have had dreams that have come true. I had a dream a friend of mine had his brakes go out.  I warned him but he said "It was just  dream." A week later the brakes went out, lucky, no one was hurt.

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            Yes

Grandfather, described in the experience.

Did you see a light?           No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?          No

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     Most have liked it and were receptive to the meaning I felt was passed on to me. That there is life after death and my father is at peace.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?            No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?       No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                     Yes