my dad came to visit me
and my sister. First he spent some time with us together and we had a great
time. Then he spent time with my sister. Then he spent time with me. I greatly
enjoyed my time with him. After some time with me, he then said, I have to go. I
started to cry and asked him, cant you come back (to earth) and be with me? Cant
you go back to the day of the accident and redo that day and stay here? (this is
odd b/c he died of a rare blood clot disease, three weeks in hospital, not in a
sudden accident so I am not sure why I asked him this question?) He said no I am
happy where I am. I began to cry a lot and grabbed at his shirt as he drifted
away, upwards towards heaven. He gently removed my hand and released it so I
wasn't holding on to his shirt anymore. He then said again, I am really happy
where I am. I lowered my head, sobbing, and nodded b/c I understood that he was
truly happy where he was and that was more important than coming back to be with
me. Right then I suddenly woke up. I woke up thinking wow...why am I dreaming of
my dad like that since he has been gone now 15 years? The dream made me happy
and peaceful and made me realize there is life after death and made me think of
God and be happy with God. maybe feeling more comforted?
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: we spoke, I hung out with him. He hung out and spent some time with me and my sister (my sister is still alive). I heard his voice, touched his shirt, saw his face, felt his presence...just like he was here, sitting right next to me. It felt so real, kind of freaked me out b/c it felt so real.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? he talked to me
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? it was my dad's voice exactly
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no, I live alone and no one is around me when I am sleeping
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? no sober going to bed, no wine or sleep aids
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
I touched his shirt as he was going back to heaven. I wanted him to stay so I grabbed his shirt.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? felt like a shirt
Was anything communicated by the touch? he gently pushed my hand away from grabbing his shirt so he could continue to go upwards to heaven to leave me.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no
Did you see the deceased? Yes
he looked like he did about 10 yrs prior to passing away
How clearly did the deceased appear? solid as a real person standing right next to me
How much of the deceased did you see? I saw all of him, I didn't notice any part of him not appearing
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? about ten years younger
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? very healthy
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? not that I am aware
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? uhmmmm I was dreaming so who knows? let me tell you. There was enough time for him to hang out with me and my sister together, then he went and hung out with her without me (I have no idea what I was doing when they were together, I just knew he was with her alone for awhile) then he was with me...it seemed like a long time ...an afternoon type time span?
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? all the same time feeling going on...nothing rushed or slowed down at all...normal time feeling as if I was awake
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
when he was telling me he was happy....I felt his happiness and knew it was extreme happiness. when I was with him, hanging out, we were both happy, laughing, talking, smiling...we were both happy. but when I asked him to stay and he said no b/c he was happy where he was at now...he was way way way happy. can't describe it but he was really happy
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? that he was happy...I have never dreamed about my dad before and he's been gone 15 yrs. My mom has been gone not quite two years and I haven't dreamed of her at all. My aunt (my moms sister) has been gone seven years from breast cancer and I had a dream with her in it about six months ago and one year ago.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was probably real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: well I was dreaming so how do I know if my dad came to me in a dream? why would he do that? why would I beg him to come back to earth? why would he chose now to come back to me? why would I chose now to dream of him?
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I have been looking for a job since august of last year and its february now. I have used up almost all of my savings account and I cant get any job interviews. I am scared I wont get a job ever again and I have been crying a lot lately and have been super duper stressed about money. Even to the point of what is life all about? is it even worth it?
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
yes I have been applying for more jobs and trying to take it day by day and not get so sad and overwhelmed by having no money or job. I am still crying every day but not as much as before the dream.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? why did I want my dad to come back to earth? why would I ask him that? it appears to be a pretty selfish concept that would only benefit me and not him...I understand he is happy but not sure why I would ask him to come back to earth b/c I missed him?
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: trying to keep it together and not be sad or feeling like whats the point of living
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I now know people can be really really happy after they die
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes I totally 100% believe my dad is happy in whatever his afterlife is now
I wasn't really worried
if he was happy prior to the dream, so its odd I dreamed this, but now I am
convinced he is happy.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? in a weird way, more peaceful and happy and I immediately now am thinking more of God and feeling God's love. my cousin said my dad is my guardian angel and he came to visit me and comfort me. But I really don't feel that or believe that? not sure how I feel about that sort of thing but I swear my dad visited me in my dream the other night.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? Yes
my younger sister was in my dream too
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes my cousin said cool! and she said that my dad was my guardian angel and he was comforting me
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? I have a lot of dreams that involve other people that are strangers to me. a lot of times, I will see my dream come true on the news, like some sort of a news event. I do try to tell people my dreams so when they come true I can say, remember when I dreamed that....people get freaked out and its sort of cool. The sad part is, when I dream of other people they are being murdered and since I don't know they usually I cannot tell them or warn them. Only one time did I dream of my friends death, one week prior, I told my co workers and one week later her son murdered her exactly as I said it in my dream. Down to the tiniest detail. If my dreams are really graphic I don't tell anyone now. b/c it freaks ppl out.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
yes I dream of peoples deaths, usually strangers (except one time). and I have de ja vous ALL the TIME. I have had that since I was very very young.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
fine, I wish we got feedback on our dream
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. feedback would be nice ...I have done dream analysis but its been pretty unproductive in information