It was a warm summers day and I was visiting my boyfriend for the weekend in Leduc, the town where he lived.

We were getting ready to head back to Calgary, where I lived, and my boyfriend was just going to leave to pick up his pay check and deposit it at the bank before we went on our way back to Calgary.

I was standing at the apartment door saying good by to him when we heard a rattling noise in the living room. I turned to see what the noise was and I saw a big heavy ashtray fly across the living room as if someone had thrown it. There was no one else in the apartment!  I couldn't believe what I saw and of course I was spooked. I looked at my boyfriend and all he said was, "Oh, it's Donna", then he left to go get his check. I knew that Donna had passed away so I was wondering how Donna could of thrown the ashtray.

My boyfriend had all of Donna's furniture and dishes along with a few other things of hers that he kept. When he got back from picking up his check he had a lot of explaining to do.  I had never experienced anything like that before.

He had explained to me that Donna was very particular about where that ashtray was placed and it was NOT to be in the living room! So I figure since I put it there she was letting me know that it was the wrong place for it. 

After that day there were more strange things happening.

Was this experience difficult to express in words? 

No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?           

Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?           

No

Did you see the deceased?        

No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?     

No

How long did the experience last?       

a few seconds. Just enough time to see the ashtray fly across the living room.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

Very Sudden.

One minute the ashtray is sitting on one side of the living room the next it's being hurled across the room.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

No

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? 

I was well informed that the ashtray was not to go in the living room anymore!

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:         

Ashtrays don't go flying across rooms themselves. Donna had a specific place for the ashtray and it wasn't where she wanted it to be.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

I was scared to death!

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

No

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

The best part was getting to know Donna. I don't really feel there is a "worse part" of the experience.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

No

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

I fully believe in ADC now! If I had not experienced it myself I would never of believed it.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?           

No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         

Yes

I verified it by picking up the ashtray on the other side of the room and asking my boyfriend what had happened before he had left the apartment.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?           

it was like being scolded as a child by your parents for doing something wrong.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          

Yes

My boyfriend  (now my husband)

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes

When I told my future mother in law about it she said that she knew Donna was still around and she didn't think I was losing my mind like MY mother thought.

Most did not believe me and just laughed. Till one day a good friend of mine had moved in with us for a few months while she was getting herself organized in a new town. Donna would hit her and push her and then she started to believe what I had told her. Donna did not like my friend for some reason and they never met each other before Donna passed away either.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  

No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?      

I married Donna's brother and have been married for 23 years now. We no longer live in Leduc, but we still have a few of her belongings.

I look forward to her visits now.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?        

No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?          

No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?              

Yes

The questions were straight forward and covered all.