Madi M's ADC
1) My sister was the first to experience after death communication from my husband who was a staunch non-believer in the afterlife (I was always unsure). She began to hear complex sentences in his native language when she was in the middle of helping me around the house just after he died. He was originally from Italy. My sister tried to write down what he said with as much accuracy as she could, immediately. It exhausted and scared her. But the messages she received were first a phrase his colleague spoke about him the next day at the memorial (but she heard it in Italian not English), the rest of the messages were about our love together and what she had to tell me. It was very complex vocabulary in Italian, words I did not know and there are readily available more simple words to express the same meaning with - but he used very complex words, words my sister would not have obviously chosen if she was trying to play a well meaning hoax. Also these things startled her deeply, he told her goodbye after the last messages and she has not heard anything since. This experience has changed her perspective significantly.
2) I was sitting in our home about two weeks after my husband's death feeling miserable and knitting a blanket I had started for us while he was alive - he had chosen the colors and it was to be our forever blanket. I was just sitting watching TV and knitting away, for several hours. Suddenly I felt a warm, heavy presence settle on me starting at my ankles and slowly as if laying down on top of me I felt the heaviness spread to the top of my head. My whole body tingled and I suddenly felt an amazing love surround me. The TV - which has never done this before or since - suddenly lost signal for about 5 seconds, then the signal came back for 5 seconds then it was lost again, this happened for several minutes about 6 times total. I turned off the TV and went to sleep, hoping to have a dream about him.
3) About 2.5 weeks after my husband died, I had an incredible dream. My husband was a trained physicist who studied deep space events and had a determined belief that there is no afterlife. He explained to me many times that the physics of it makes such a thing simply impossible. In the dream I had (clear, vivid and each detail I can remember, voice tones, colors, clothing, smells, sounds, facial expressions etc.) my husband came rested next to me in bed, took my hands and gently tugged me out of my body. He smiled broadly at me, looking like he had just a few years before with his hair style. He asked me where I wanted to go to which I responded the happiest place in the world - he took me threw the window, holding my hand the whole time and we flew to a tiny village just across the border of northern Italy. There was a wedding party and we danced and danced to the folk music together, laughing and smiling and hugging, cheering on the bride and groom along with the rest of the village. We danced just on the edge of the 'real' guests. After this he took me to an apple orchard in full bloom just behind the village, he explained to me that he was living in 'space-time' and I asked 'in between space and time?' and he said sort-of, not exactly but that is close enough. He then said here, let me show you and suddenly he made all of the apple blossoms come into fruit, he stopped and smiled at me, then he made the orchard being to ripen after which he picked an apple and handed it to me - smiling the whole time. Isn't this beautiful my love? he asked me, often as he had while alive. It was magical and then the dream ended. I haven't had a dream about him since though I often feel his presence, I think he told me what he wanted to share and is busy enjoying himself.
4) Another experience was with our 1 year old puppy. I was sad and making myself tea in the kitchen one night, the puppy was standing in the kitchen watching me. out of the blue I just felt like saying 'Quinn? (our puppy) Where's Daddy? Where's A-----?" Our puppy turned around and looked at the dinning room table where one chair was pulled out and had nothing in front of it except a small case of CDs from my husband's car. Thinking this was strange I said again Where is he? Our dog turned all the way around, trotted out of the kitchen and sat at the foot of this chair, ears up staring intently at the empty chair, then turned to look over his shoulder back at me - as if to say - right here silly, but he looked very serious, mouth closed and sad eyes, which is not part of his average playful puppy character. I stood next to the chair a long time, I told my husband I miss him deeply and I got the feeling of "yes, I know" back.
5) Finally. My husband
wanted to be cremated. I told him I am still your wife and you have to
compromise with me a little bit. I had him buried without cremation. I woke up
one morning to the strong smell of formaldehyde and what can only be described
in my mind as embalming fluid. I think he was expressing his displeasure with my
choice, but I didn't feel like he was angry, I just felt like he was saying 'how
would you like it?' but that he understood my choice and didn't care too much.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? Outside.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? No it was exactly the same. My sister says it was identical to my husband's voice
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
It felt like a heavy, warm hug that covered my whole body.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Both familiar and unfamiliar, I've never had a hug that felt like it wrapped around my whole body. But the touch was not foreign - it felt familiar.
Was anything communicated by the touch? Love. Warmth.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you see the deceased? Yes
In a dream. His hair was the way it was a few years before he passed away, he had told me he wanted to grow his hair to be like that again.
How clearly did the deceased appear? In the dream he was living, 100% solid.
How much of the deceased did you see? All.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? He was about the same age, he died at 37, he appeared 37 maybe a year or two younger.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? 100% healthy and very happy.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No comment
How long did the experience last? between 5-20 minutes
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Gradual. A fade out or a gentile goodbye and I felt like his presence simply faded away.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
He is usually very happy and jubilant, he is a little sad sometimes but often trying to cheer me up.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? He spoke to my sister in his native tongue. She has no knowledge of the Italian language and he told her certain things in quite a complex vocabulary - words that anyone with a basic knowledge of the language would not know or recognize - the conjugations were perfect. I believe he did this on purpose, so we would be sure.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: There are things that only he could say that came through my sister when I was deeply traumatized. She was visibly and significantly disturbed by this, questioning herself. The dream I had was exactly like him, it was beautiful, he was attempting to explain things to me and seemed a little frustrated when I thought I understood but did not completely - his emotions were very real every detail was present. Our dog could NOT understand that I was asking where our husband was and leave the room to sit by a chair... the one he turned around to look at the first time I asked the question. I've never seen anything like this in my life. The smell of formaldehyde-like substance could not have come from anywhere and it was so strong it woke me up.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes
Only one dream experience - the rest were waking.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was happy to see him mostly. Sad and missed him more when the dog alerted me to where he was. And a bit of regret and feeling sorry when I smelled the formaldehyde-like smell.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes A little bit.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Wonderful sense of comfort and that my husband is still in some ways with me. I miss him so much and wish things could be different.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: Certain of the afterlife, I feel in some way I am able to still have a relationship with my husband though it is most probable that it will be many decades before I join him.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I am now certain of the afterlife.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes I know that he really is happy, that we go on after death.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Yes All described in the experience page.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? peace, sadness, longing, love, happiness and comfort.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
Personal experiences only witnessed by myself. Second hand experiences that could only be explained as ADC were experienced by my sister while I was in a state of shock.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? Yes He sped up time, then slowed it down, then went back again.
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? Yes
Yes, in the primary dream I had he gently pulled me from my body and asked me to come with him.
Did you meet or see
any other beings other than the deceased?
Did you see a light? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes My sister. She is apprehensive about these experiences. She believes them but is questioning.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. A bit shorter would be nice :)