It is now ten years since our only child Matthew age 19 has been gone.  He does come to us, not quite as much now, but when we need him there he is. 

My husband Brian was waiting for by-pass surgery, went to bed and died during the night.  He started down to the tunnel to the light. He saw his parents waving to him, they were in their 40'd he said.  He had no pain anywhere just complete bliss and wanted to keep doing.  He then felt our son to the side of him pull him back into his body as it was not his time.  My Brian is an accountant and very conservative.  When he experiences an ADC it is quite profound.   

Another time involving my Brian was when he was at our country place alone.  It was in the winter and he came out of the house to go snowmobiling.  He looked across the field and someone was riding Matthew's snowmobile. He went after the person.  They reached the end of one of our roads, turned around with the face visor down, looked at my husband and vanished.  My sons snowmobile was safely in our barn. 

Sept 21/08 

My own most recent ADC was as follows.  I was attending a family day as a volunteer.   I was thinking of Matthew a lot that day as we have no birth children. When  I came home I was sitting on my back deck, having an ice tea, still thinking of Matthew and writing in my journal which I have done since he died.  A hummingbird appeared right in front of my nose and stayed at least a minute.  It is the wrong time of the year for hummingbirds in Canada. 

Now my Brian was once at the farm alone, sitting out under our maple tree.  It was the  anniversary of Matthew's death and low and behold their appeared a hummingbird in front of his nose.

I have many many other ADC's.

Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience:  1.  The first experience I had to go and get groceries and was crying my eyes out in the store, everywhere.  The very kind stuff took over and helped me to get myself together.  I opened the trunk of my car and felt a hand  push in into my trunk.  

2.  My most vivid to this day was when I went to the grave on a beautiful summer day. I was again crying my eyes out.  I did not turn the car radio off for some reason then the song by Cher came on IF I COULD TURN BACK TIME. Monarch Butterflies swarmed all around me with very bright light for 45 mins.  I felt such a sense of peace and tranquility all around me.  In the past ten years I have heard Cher's If In Could Turn Back Time many times.  I have her CD and play it when I feel down.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:    We have heard Matthew walking upstairs in our old farm house. 

In the city I have heard him in the basement very late at night.

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  The walking was just like a live person walking around.   

We have also smelled his pipe tobacco when he first died my hubby did.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           It was definitely the voice of our son.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           NO

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   NO

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            Yes

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   I have felt him touch me over the years.

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  A feeling of sadness on his part and hope for me as I knew he went to heaven.

I myself in my dreams have seen Matthew with Jesus.

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  NO

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      Yes

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?           cedar pipe tobacco husband smelled

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?        NO

How long did the experience last?        DO NOT KNOW I WAS NOT HOME JUST HUSBAND

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

sometimes sad that he killed himself because we do not think he meant to

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           We both know that it was our Matthew communicating with us.  When you die we believe you go through a door, but it is one way for the deceased,  They cannot come back through the door and tell us what it is all about.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           When you are newly bereaved you experience most of the above emotions at one timed or another. Your heart and soul are completely destroyed and you never believe life will go in a different way.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Yes with the comfort of a chat room I found in Canada.  I is not longer up and running.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes     I believe fully in God

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

Whomever dies first will definitely try to very vividly communicate to the other very soon after that or maybe during their crossing over.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Yes From Bereaved Families members described to me some of their experiences.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Sad, angry, regret, guilt suicidal very very very sad

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     Yes

Once I felt like I was floating and went to a beautiful garden and had tea with my in-laws and son Matthew.  It was beautiful and very peaceful.  I was sleeping when I had this very intense dream.

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?       Yes

My dear mother in law Trudy and my father in law Warren, 

I have also seen my parents Gertie and Harold.  

I have seen a man I worked with, he was 48 and died of a brain tumor.

Did you see a light?           No

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       I could write you a book on the subject of ADC but it is 4am I have up since 3am and I very tired right now. 

You many get in touch with me via my email as I would like to share more and understand more myself about ADC

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            Yes

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    I think this questionnaire is very good.  It is now 4am and now I can go and have my hot cocoa.  May the force be with you as my Matthew always would say.