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Margaret Z's ADC

Experience description:  

I heard of my husband's death in Alexandria. He had to be buried before sunset same day. I spent the night with his sister. The next morning I forced myself to come home because we had two cats to feed and I also wanted to go home. He had died alone at home. When I entered our home I was numb and shocked. I walked into the bedroom where he had died. I stood beside the bed he had died in, and the two cats stood outside the door. I stood beside the bed, I felt a breeze (warm) it was March and reasonably hot in Egypt on my left hand, suddenly I felt a much stronger, for want of a better word, movement of air, to my right, and much, colder. I was startled and said 'what's that'. I (regret now) pulled my hand away. I hadn't expected that. I checked everything in the flat was closed, no windows open, nothing.  

I have no explanation for this, but that it was him. It was surprising (this might sound cold) but I had not expected that. There was 'something' there.

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            Yes  On my right arm

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   Unfamiliar (because it was unexpected and cold, much colder than room temperature)

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  No, I pulled my hand away and I was also completely unreceptive through numbness and grief

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  No

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      Yes

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?           About 3 months later when I returned from my school. A sense of 'personal odor' continually near the bedroom door and the bedroom door closed one morning (very silently) after I had walked out. This was in July (31/2  months after Mahmoud had died). There was no sound. Every morning, when I went into bedroom I sat, that particular morning I opened the wardrobe and was very upset, hugging and embracing clothes, and very distraught. Then walked out of room and into bathroom. Suddenly, when I reached bathroom and 'sat on loo', door had closed.

            Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?     Yes, it was his personal scent

            Was anything communicated by the smell?   No, but I felt comforted

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?        Perhaps because of the heat from his things (this is Egypt)

How long did the experience last?        The scent, on and off, v. strong at first and then fading (which makes me think it  may be connected with heat)

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         No

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           No

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           Was unexpected and has made me think.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No    

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I felt I had no feelings when the first incident happened (but of course I must have).  I was grieving very badly when I experienced the follow up.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Uncertain

The first was too soon (the next day). The next made me happy (door closing)

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Shocked and frightened, and also hopeful and happy (I know that sounds contradictory) but that's how I felt.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes                 Describe:            Because my husband died, and now I pray much more every day.          

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   Yes     Became more religious

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes     I had a basic belief in God, but now I feel there is much more. In a way it scares me.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Sometimes hope, sometimes despair, but the touch I felt was real and absolute and the door closing was real and absolute, the scent could be attributed to the heat (40 degrees)

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Have you shared this experience with others?         No      

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       There were some anomalies regarding phone calls, i.e. my brother in the UK rang because my name had come up on his mobile (I hadn't called him - this happened approx. 6 days after death); then friend phoned to say my name had shown up on her phone ( I hadn't called her either) approx. 1 month after death - I have no explanation for this. Then at end Aug phone rang (mobile) and when I answered there was nobody. Number registered 0166666667. Saw number was odd. When I rang - voice said no such number.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    None - hope it was helpful