Marian R's ADC

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Experience description:

I was sleeping when I felt something tug at my foot.  I sat up and looked at the foot of my bed and Marla was standing there.  I could only see the top half of her since the remainder of her body, if it was there, was hidden by the foot of the bed. 

She was kind of solid but not real solid.  I could see through her but she was completely transparent either.  When I sat up and looked at her, she said, "I just wanted to tell you myself that I died."  I didn't say anything, I just kind of looked at her.  She disappeared just as suddenly as she came. 

I might have thought I was dreaming but I was still wide awake after she was gone.  I later learned that her mother had the same experience the same night.  My niece called me the next day to tell me that she had died.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:   Marla spoke very plainly and told me that she wanted to tell me herself that she died.

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  Definitely external.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           An exact match.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No.

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   No.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            Yes

She touched my foot to wake me up so she could talk to me.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   We were not really in the habit of touching each other.  Not even to give hugs.

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  No.

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  No.

Did you see the deceased?         Yes, She looked exactly as she had the last time I had seen her.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Sort of solid and sort of transparent, but not quite either one.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       top half

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       yes.  Same age.  She looked the same.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            Very healthy.  She had many health problems when alive and seem well and happy when she contacted me after her death.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No.

How long did the experience last?        Just a few seconds.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         Very sudden.  As soon as I felt the touch on my foot, I woke up and as soon as she said what she wanted to say she disappeared just as suddenly.  All at once, in an instant.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

I could tell that she was relieved and in good spirits despite her death.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  Yes.  I did not know that she had died.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          I feel the experience was real because I was not told until the next day that she died.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I only recall being somewhat surprised.  I did not feel afraid, elated, happy, or any other particular feeling.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           No

Since I was as of yet unaware that she had died I did not have any particular emotion to heal.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      There is no best and/or worst part of the experience.

What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have?        
No particular attitude 
My daughter died on Nov. 4, 2002, and it has changed my entire perspective and many of my beliefs.  I have not had an ADC from my daughter but would be grateful for one.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Yes

She told me that she wanted to tell me herself that she died.  I learned the next day that she had died.  I also learned that her mother had the same experience around the same time.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Surprise.

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes, Surprise, because her mother had the same experience the same night around the same time, (at least that is what I was told).

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   Yes, griefnet.

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       No.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No, No alcohol or drugs of any kind, legal or otherwise.

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

I had one out of body experience when I was about 24 years old.  I was happy and floating until I realizes that if I was out of my body I was no longer alive.  I thought of my 2 small children and rushed back into my body.  When I came to, my husband told me that he thought I died.