Grandmother: The day after my family and I had planned my grandma's funeral, my grandma appeared to me just as I was waking up. She passed in my Mom's home, where I was staying at the time of my ADC. However, I was sleeping in a different room than where she passed. Anyway, as I opened my eyes, she was laying next to me in bed, watching me sleep. She wasn't the age that she passed at (77); she was much younger, probably in her 50's, but I still recognized her right away. When my eyes opened, she smiled her usual happy closed mouth smile, and then faded away.
Uncle: It was in the
summer just before my sophomore year of high school. Uncle Ricky had just been
released from the hospital that day after having open heart surgery about 2
weeks prior. My dad was living with my Uncle at the time. My dad had promised to
call once Uncle Ricky was home and settled in so that I could come and visit.
Well, when the call never came, I decided to lay down and take a nap (which was
unusual for me at the time). I hadn't been asleep but for maybe thirty minutes
when I heard my uncles voice say to me, "Goodbye. I love you." After this
happened, I sat straight up and opened my eyes and told my brother that Uncle
Ricky had passed. Just as soon as the words left my mouth, my dad called and
broke the news to us. But I already knew.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? Yes
With my grandmother, it was hard to communicate to anyone in my family because I didn't want to hinder their grieving process in anyway. I was worried that it would upset them even more, because they had yet to experience anything.
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: "Goodbye. I love you." It was extremely clear, in my uncle's voice, and I feel that he was communicating his death to me.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? It was as though... I was in a big dark room and my uncle was talking to me from there.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Similar.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
When my grandma came to me, she was younger probably in her 50's. She had longer, darker hair and wore glasses that she had around that age. She was smiling and laying on her side in the bed watching me sleep.
How clearly did the deceased appear? Somewhat transparent. I could see the curtains to the window through her.
How much of the deceased did you see? Upper torso (shoulders, arms, neck, head)
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? Not
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? Healthy and Happy.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? Grandma: no more than 10-15 seconds.
Uncle: 2-3 seconds.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Grandmother: the beginning experience is sudden, but her fading was gradual.
Uncle: all at once.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Only with my grandmother. She seemed happy, radiant, proud, and full of love.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? Uncle: Only that he passed.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I have no other explanations for it.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Shock, really, in both cases. Just baffled that it was happening, but happy at the sametime that it did.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? No
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Just the simple fact that it happened was the best and worst part of the experience.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? No
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Relief. Sadness. Happiness. A little confused as to why it happened to me.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
With my uncle, my brother was awake while I was napping. He witnessed me sitting straight up and he was the first person I told that Uncle Ricky had died. This information came to me as a voice in my dream. (My uncle saying goodbye and that he loved me). Just after I woke, my dad called with the news.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? Yes
With my Uncle, yes. It was like... I wasn't inside my own head anymore.
Did you meet or see
any other beings other than the deceased?
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Most of them said that it was a way that my grandmother was saying that she was always going to be watching over me.
With my uncle, they
said it was weird that I knew before my dad ever called.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. Nope.