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Experience description:  

This occurred two days after my father's passing away. Funeral arrangements needed to be made, and I had been asked to sing at the funeral service. I was very ambivalent to this, in fact my first response was to say I didn't want to contribute musically. 

The morning, after the second night after his passing, I woke up after a dream, chuckling. I felt in a very funny mood. After waking I realized that my father had made me laugh in his own, inimitable way. After waking up, I felt light of heart, and I knew that it was he who had made me laugh. A second later I realized my fathers passing. As I lay wondering about this experience, I felt a warm sensation near my right cheek, as if I was being touched there. It was as if my dad very lightly touched my cheek. He sometimes did that when I was a child. It was a very moving and wonderful experience. It caused me to decide that I would indeed sing at his funeral. It gave me strength to carry through, be strong for my mom, for the funeral arrangements and the other many things that need to be taken care of in general after a person dies, since I was the only one who could be in charge.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No


Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?        No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes

on the right cheek, lightly touched

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   familiar, sometimes was touched this way when I was a child

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  warmth, love

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        4 or 5 seconds

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         it happened right after waking up from a dream in which he made me chuckle

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

loving

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  no

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:            Experience fits in the sum total of my life and experience at the time; my father's passing

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   N0 comment

the first part was in a dream-like state, the second part, I was quite fully aware and awake     

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I was grieving and sad and confused since my father just passed away, and stressed, because all the weight was on my shoulders concerning everything that needed to be arranged after his passing away. In the dream just before waking up I was made to feel my fathers presence, and felt light, because of his sense a humor. The touch after that finished this feeling. He was with me, he had contacted me that he was still there, and that everything is not as heavy as it seemed. Life goes on.


Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?         Yes, absolutely. 

I was grieving and sad and confused since my father just passed away, and stressed, because all the weight was on my shoulders concerning everything that needed to be arranged after his passing away. In the dream just before waking up I was made to feel my fathers presence, and felt light, because of his sense a humor. The touch after that finished this feeling. He was with me, he had contacted me that he was still there, and that everything is not as heavy as it seemed. Life goes on.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Only positive. Both dream and touch

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes                 Describe:            more open to after death experiences

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   Yes     these occurrences, after death communications, etc., might exist

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?   Yes     It made me realize, such things might exist

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?     No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            see previous answer


Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?  No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?           No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?          No

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes     was positive, my story was believed by my husband

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?            Yes

with husband

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?       Yes 

out of body.

When I was a child, returning from surgery in hospital, I once had an experience I was not in my body, and could not wake up. this was frightening at the time.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                     Yes

Yes. I related everything accurately and as detailed as I possibly could. 

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    None. You're doing great work!