The experience with my brother Bob is a main reason why I sought out your Web Site. He and I were very close, I was the big sister always there to help him in one way or another.  He died so suddenly of heart failure that I have been left very lost and confused.  I had gone to our family's former business and Bob's favorite tavern.  I was listening to some music when suddenly from my left side I felt the coldest of chills pass through my body.  The current owner of the Tavern recently had been told by a medium of sorts that 2 spirits live there.  He concurs, as lamps have been known to shake fiercely on the tables with no one around, since his death on 3/03/03. Many assume the other spirit is our Father Jules. 

My Aunt Peg appeared to me recently in a dream, sitting in a red velvet chair. In a dark smoke filled room. She passed away 3/31/03. I only see her from the waist up.  She is expressionless and looks pale.  She says nothing to me.  Her death was probably due to excessive drinking, the evening of her death, however without an autopsy we can only assume it was from natural causes.  My sister has experienced the exact same dream only with my brother Bob in the chair.  What could this mean?

Was this experience difficult to express in words? 

No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?           

Yes

I think the coldness I felt on my left side was my brothers arm around my waist and then eventually through me.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?  

Unfamiliar

            Was anything communicated by the touch? 

No

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? 

Unknown.  Except it was not cold in the Tavern at all when I was there.

Did you see the deceased?        

No

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

Sudden...I looked immediately in the direction of the sensation and froze.  I let it pass through me and calmly started to process the whole ordeal.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

Uncertain

I think it was a form of "I Love You" Because I wasn't afraid.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:         

I do hope it is not a wishful experience that I had with my Father or my Brother.  A lot of talk about life after death was circulating when my brother died.  I keep wondering if I am not just wanting this to happen.  What I felt was real.  I know that, and it can't be explained away by a drafty room or anything like that.  I know he was with me at that moment.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

Not for my brother or father.  Obviously it was for my experience with my Aunt.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

It was like...."Oh God finally!"  I knew I would feel him sooner or later.  I was relived to know he could touch me.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

Not really, time is the main healer.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

Knowing what/who was there.  And realizing it was over.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

Yes

            Describe:     

My family realizes now how short life is.  We are bonded stronger than ever and have a great respect for each other.  I LOVE YOU are the most commonly used 3 words in the house. If I only have one life I want it to be productive and remembered as a good one :-)

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Uncertain

My belief in God and Heaven have altered somewhat.  It's not like I was taught.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?           

Uncertain

If it was real....why aren't they in Heaven with the angels?  Why are the tugging at those here on earth still.  Is there something I should do to help them cross over?

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         

Uncertain

I was so stunned I told no one around me what had just happened

What emotions did you feel during the experience?           

Relief, but also fear in wondering why he was still here.

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes

Just my sister who shares the same type of dream I had of my Aunt only with my Brother seated in the chair.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  

No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?      

I am concerned that my Aunt and Brother are stuck in some sort of Limbo.  I want them to experience the Heaven or "Promised Land" they were intended too.  Are they coming to me for help?

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?          

Yes 

I am epileptic, and the experience of coming out of a seizure is always somewhat spiritual as your brain is reconnecting.  It leaves you feeling purged and clean, it's hard to describe but I do consider it a spiritual feeling.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?              

Uncertain

I have never done this before so I am hoping I am comprehensive and don't sound too crazy. I do hope I didn't confuse you with three contacts instead of just one.  When my brother died in March and my Aunt 30 days later it just put things into a weird prospective and I hope I have explained it clearly to you.

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.   

None that I can think of.